Wwyd- tbh think I should walk away?

[Suedenym3]

NC’d as long time poster: I feel like I might be going mad

for background: Been in a relationship with DP off/on for 2.5 years

in an off period his ex got pregnant: with his baby. Trapped him.

during our relationship he has slept with her out of pity and even though I am certain he doesn’t love her it still hurt me when I found out iyswim

I dumped him but we have since got back together and made promises to each other

if I dump him he will go back to his mad ex which will be hard for me

he’s asked me to spend bank hol with him

he needs to realise that I am the prize

fwiw, I was never like this before him, I think him and his ex’s behaviour has made me a bit mad

there has to be more to a relationship than this surely?

thinking I should just walk away for good because I don’t think his ex will leave him alone

Feeling a bit crap today because we had sex last night

Today he’s asked me to marry him: feeling very confused notwithstanding the fact I still feel angry that he spent his weekend with his crazy ex

Friends think I’m mad for considering having him back but I cannot deal with him being with her as she has BPD

Did he make it clear he didn't want a baby by wearing a condom that she proceeded to pierce holes in? Or did she 'trap' him by refusing to have an abortion at his request?

You sound far madder than her btw. At least she has the excuse of wanting the father of her child/ family unit for putting up with his nonsense. What reason to you keep putting up with a sleazy serial cheater for? And not only that but turn her into the villain instead of him?

Are there any other men in your area? Even one who is slightly better than this twat? The Jeremy Kyle show will be calling and you'll need a new man to bring on the stage to make twat number 1 jealous and realise what he missed.

Why do you even want this hassle? Don't you want someone who just wants you....and demonstrates this is the truth by not shagging someone else?

Wow, never realised “being clear he didn’t want a baby” was a reliable method of contraception!

You all sound a bit mad to be honest. I think you need to walk away. The drama!

he slept with her out of pity and she trapped him? Yeah, right...
I wouldn’t walk away - I would run very fast.

So he doesn't love her, but if you left him he would go back to her?

He slept with her out of pity and now she's pregnant after trapping him?
Her body and fake boobs are a turn off? Can't be that much of a turn off since he made the active choice to have sex with her!

You honestly cannot be that stupid. He has you wrapped round his little finger.

He's having his cake and eating it too. He's using you and her and now there's an innocent little baby being brought into this also.

You're all as bad as each other and I feel desperately sorry for the life that him and his ex have created.

Arrogance, self-importance and berating other women does not make you a prize. It makes you a knob.

Well, there's not much to add that hasn't been said already.
He doesn't have sex with her out of pity, he's going there and getting his end away.
How could she have trapped him when he had sex with her without a condom? He's trapped her just as much if that's the case.

Why, if he's only doing it out of pity and he's done with her after this weekend are you so worried that if you end it with him he'll run back to her?
Why did he spend the weekend back with her if he's 'only doing it through pity'? Why did he do it this weekend then?

Sure, she's crazy, sure.... I'm sure that's believable, as is the fact he doesn't like her body and fake boobs, yet can somehow get it up for her.

He spent the weekend having sex with her and on Tuesday asked you to marry him and slept with you on Monday? And this man is in his fifties you say?

Honestly, this is just so messy, my post doesn't even have any real cohesion as all of this is just too messy!

Oh, and the winner here is whoever escapes from this whole mess without him. I can't see that happening, you're so worried about her getting him (even though she already has him, he slept with her this weekend!).

Look no matter what anyone tells you on this thread you're going to believe him and keep going back for more.

He's got you, he knows that. It's going to take time for you to realise what sort of man he is. Trust me I've been there. The right one will come along and show you the light eventually.

I bet you a million dollars that she thinks you are the mad ex who he pity shags.

This is actually hilarious, the self delusion.

Oh yeah, he finds her such a turn off that his cock stayed rock hard throughout! 😂😂😂😂

In what way is she an ex? He's still seeing her. She's pregnant.
Have some respect ( for yourself and her and the baby) and leave them to it.

Cock sharing

An interesting twist on timeshare...

For your own sake get out of this. He sounds like a dick. When you've been with a dick for a long time you can forget that decent men do exist, I know I've been there, you think this is what relationships are like and it's just part of the game or whatever. Relationships don't have to be like that, walk away and look for a better man, trust me, they are out there.

Men don’t “shag” out of pity