Work emails

[reallyhopethisworksNC]

DH had a work colleague who he acknowledged fancied him - she used to make cookies etc just for him, weird stuff like that. However he said he spoke to her about unprofessional behaviour and has little to do with her in the office. She has since moved teams and I thought nothing of it. Stumbled upon an exchange of emails between them today on work email about a business deal. They did not work on the deal together and the entire tone has left me feeling cold - VERY playful and I just can’t understand why he started this dialogue with her, this bantery, fun work dialogue with someone he is no longer working with and who he apparently never spoke to at work?!?

THIS is exactly how I feel about it! Thank you for articulating it so well

Your welcome.

@Thatsfuckingshit
I moan about motherhood all the time at work.

It would be very foolish to do this with a guy you knew fancies you though. That's asking for trouble.

It demonstrates poor boundaries with the opposite sex.

*User1011

“might have to report it as a breach”

Because someone’s partner inadvertently read an email of office banter?

Hilarious.*

^ This ^

Why are people being so pious?
It's irrelevant to this post.
Posters are being uneccessarily snippy with the poor op who's clearly got a lot on her mind.
GDPR is his responsibility not the op's. It's clear that she's not misused any data nor breached any confidentiality guidelines. People use their work ICT as personal all the time and employers know this.
The fact is, she's seen something on his phone that's made her uncomfortable. She's not a hacker. I think it's mean together all judgy pants over this.

OP , I'd be pissed off at his lying to you for whatever reason. Sure it's all innocent but I'd have felt hurt reading those messages after he'd led you to believe they're not in contact.
It's a vgrey area, could be innocent work friendship, could be 'innocent' flirtation or could be more. In all honesty you will never know, he has lied before about her and will do it again I'm sure. No way is he going to stop as he (apparently, judging on the previous lie) doesn't genuinely see why should.
You have to workout how to deal with it. Mentally, at six weeks post natal you're very vulnerable so please look after yourself and make sure you take about this to others in real life, friends, family, whatever. Don't let it overtake you.
Take care.

It would be very foolish to do this with a guy you knew fancies you though. That's asking for trouble

Don't be so ridiculous. I chat to people at work. When someone has fancied me at work I have chatted and spoken to them in the same way I would anyone else.

Moaning about motherhood, to someone who expressed interest in my a good while ago, does not encourage intimacy.

dragonflyflew

Thank you for your kind words - I really appreciate them.

Essentially he has apologised, realises it’s all inappropriate and how bad it looks and insists he isn’t interested in her and will let me know if she contacts him again in the same way. He also sees how hurtful comments about him being upset he can’t going out drinking as he’s a father now are for his wife sitting at home with the baby! As you say, no way of me knowing what’s true or not but for my own sanity probably going to give him the benefit of the doubt this once. Anything else happens again with the same person and I won’t come to such a calm conclusion.