I need to write it all down as I don’t know what to think. Apologies as this may be long and garbled.
My DH has told me that he has had someone he works with messaging him inappropriately.
He’s mentioned her before and said that she’s been having family troubles and is very up and down. She’s been asking him to go around and help her out with things and he’s always said no.
She knows he’s married and has kids (our youngest is 4 months old), yet has messaged him non stop every day for weeks.
Last week he told me that she’s been sending messages saying: “she can’t stop thinking about kissing him,” “she fingers herself thinking about him,” (yes she’s that classy) “she can’t stop thinking about him” etc.
He told me that after a night out with his friends him and a friend had gone around as she was having a party. When they got there it turned out to be just her and her friend so after ten minutes he left. He said as he left she tried to kiss him and he pushed her away and said no he was married and it wasn’t appropriate.
Apparently since then she’s been texting him constantly and he’s been trying to ignore her but she’s just been sending him rants saying “how dare he ignore her” etc.
He told me that he bought she was depressed and lonely as she’s a single mum with no friends and a dysfunctional family and as he’s been depressed before he just wanted to be her friend and help her out. He said he didn’t tell me the extent of her messages as he thought he was handling it but clearly it hadn’t helped.
He knows he’s fucked up and that I’m so angry with him but I just don’t know what to do. He says it’s all one sided and he’s shown me his replies to her messages which have been very monosyllabic and not flirty at all but I’m fuming that he even went around there. He said he was flattered someone younger fancied him but had absolutely no attraction to her and wished he had said something sooner.
After we spoke he’s blocked her on all social media so she text him a load of abuse and then tried to add me on FB. He’s since blocked all her numbers.
I don’t think he would have done anything but it’s all thrown me and I’m just a bit of a wreck. Where do I go from here? Can we get back from this? How illegal is it to stab him in the eyes???