So, I would like some help here about a woman i think I am in love with and I don’t know where to start. Yes, i am a man but I feel the need for some neutral opinions and i would respect any comments from women as you might be able to help me see how this girl I have fallen for is feeling.
The woman i think i love i actually work at the same company with (though not in the same team). I first saw her nearly a year ago and got butterflies immediately, I also realised she wore a wedding ring and so thought nothing of it. However, months later I was walking to the bus stop after work and although i knew she was a good thirty seconds behind me, i didn’t stop as we’d never spoken. But she definitely ran to catch me up then stopped, said hello and we talked all the way into town, and she gave me a lingering look as we parted. Again, i thought nothing.
Not long after we started emailing (about a work thing) which then turned social and became almost a daily exchange. Nothing flirty at all i should add. But i began to suspect she may be separated which was then confirmed a while later, and sure enough i noticed she was no longer wearing her ring. The emails increased as did the odd chat in person and i found we got on amazingly well with the same interests in everything, and we’d always chat excitedly about all sorts. No numbers had been exchanged still. Then this summer, we were chatting and she suggested a drink after work, only for an hour. We ended up being out for over four and briefly held hands in the pub. She told me her marriage had been over for a year but had continued to wear her ring whilst they were still in a bit of contact. We bumped into friends of hers after and upon hearing my name, her friend asked “is this from work”, which interested me; she’d obviously said something.
Weeks later, against my better judgement, i asked her out but was kindly refused and told dating is the furthest thing from her mind, which i understand. but i admit to being incredibly disappointed. The emails continued for a bit but have tailed off and i now try and avoid talking to her, mainly out of self-preservation, but i imagine she’ll think I am ignoring her/dislike her, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Every time I see or hear her voice my stomach flips, and i just want to just tell her now how i feel and get it off my chest, as it’s really getting me down. We still have moments at work when we have lingering looks etc but i don’t know how to play this one. Any advice is most appreiciated. I can’t get her out of my head. Sorry the monologue is so wordy :|)