Should I tell the other mans wife ?

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Or is it just sour grapes that is making me want to ruin his life like mine has been ?

Wife has been having an affair since Christmas OM is married with two young boys
Just fuming about how unfair it is he gets to keep his wife children and Home while I’m losing all mine

Sorry to sound whiney but it’s one of those days 😔

Tell him. He deserves a know the truth. Knowledge is power. If he stays with her that's his choice...but you can't make an informed decision in the absence of vital information.

I also presume you're splitting up as the affair is ongoing, unless you are on board with an open marriage on her side or becoming a cuckold.

I personally think you have a moral obligation to tell. You could save her years and years of heartache. Can never understand why people try argue otherwise, strikes me as quite cruel. Your reasons for doing it are irrelevant, as long as you do it.

A few posters on here suggested don’t tell because it’s the OP & his wife who are responsible for the breakdown of their marriage. That may/may not be so, but it was clearly the wife who was responsible for the affair and involving another couple, not OP.

She deserves to know she is married to a cheating scumbag. Ignorance is not bliss.

Thanks everyone
I think I will tell her but maybe leave it until thing are more sorted with me wife and daughter