Is it possible to love someone you've never met?

[Khaleesi78]

Just what the title says... Think I need someone to talk me down!

A man added me on Facebook in 2009 and we've been in touch (as friends) intermittently ever since. He was married back then but they split 3 years ago when his wife met someone else.

My (bad) relationship ended recently and we've got closer. He's been sending me flowers and we've talked every day for the last month either by text, phone or FaceTime. I've even arranged to go and meet him in a couple of weeks (we live 300 miles apart).

I can't stop thinking about him. Am I mad?!

*hes grooming you"

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Op, don't get carried away, but go with an open mind and have fun. Look after uour personal safety, I'd try to avoid shagging him this trip, but your call.

Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Good luck have fun, take it slow, stay safe..you'll be good.

A 40 yr old woman is travelling 300 miles to meet a man from the internet? 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

If this was me I would worry about two things here:

1. The poor guy is destined to disappoint in the flesh because I would have created an impossibly perfect fantasy during the past month or so.

1. I generally find men are more visual and fast to want a relationship to become intimate. So I would have expected HIM to suggest visiting you as soon as he felt it was appropriate. I am concerned that you are making the effort to do the journey first. This is nothing to do with equality, just how men who are genuinely tend to operate.

This is actually a good point of PPs. He should actually be coming to you.

This is not because men need to complete Herculean tasks to win your love and prove their worth. It's just because men are more likely than women are to take a date and anything following if it's made available for them, even if they're ambivalent about it. If they actually make an effort for it, it's more likely that they're genuinely interested.

Genuinely KEEN that should have read.

I met my husband as my penpal when I was 13! No Facetime then and no camera phones, we only had printed pictures of each other. So 8 I believe it's possible.

To be fair I'd also have expected him to come to you first. I'd assume he doesn't want to make the effort. Illl come to you next time is easy to say.

As said, I know it's old fashioned but I wouldn't have sex with him. Make sure he's interested in you if you want a relationship, and he isn't just bringing you up there for a shag. If you're happy with it just being a one off thing then that's fine.

Also in reality how is this relationship going to work. 300 miles is a fair distance.