I caught my DH texting another woman last week ‘missing you’, we were sat in bed and I grabbed phone off him. He quickly admitted they’d also slept together. We were abroad on a family holiday, so I told him to leave, he seemed surprised but not upset. He was actually really cold, emotionally blank and unapologetic. Said we’d not been good for long while. Told our children (5, 8) he was heading for a business trip and packed a bag went. I was raging, crying...nothing.
He’d been awful through the holiday, shouting and grumpy with the kids, ignoring the other family we were with. It got so bad the day before that I’d asked him if he wanted to be there.
A week on he’s been on a business trip to Far East, posting pics on social media and carrying on as if nothing has happened.
He came home yesterday and we talked, he drank heavily and told me he’s not sure how he feels about me ‘his head is a mess’, but he was willing to stay home and see if we can get that ‘spark back’. Today was awful, he was drunk by early afternoon and then fell asleep for the afternoon. Really distant with me.
I’ve told him to pack his bags and leave in the morning (when he can drive).
We have a counselling session booked in a week, but I have an awful feeling it’s the end of the road for us. He’s done some pretty crapping uncaring things in the past, normally with heavy drinking so I’ve forgiven him and tried to help.
He’d said the affair was just a casual thing and is over but he’s glued to the phone still (like on holiday). Pretty sure they’re still texting. She has a young family too.
Can’t sleep/eat. Have the whole summer with my lovely kids and I just want to crawl into a hole.