When to sleep together?

[Sunshinepimms]

Wanted to get a general jist of when the average time was to sleep with someone. How many dates would you say? I've had 1 formal date with this guy and then I've been at his but just a kiss happened. I made it clear I didn't want to sleep with his just yet and take it slowly.
But just curious as to what other people think when it comes to them? Do you have a rule or just when it feels right?

That is your choice, not the choice of other people.

What I meant to say: You decide and do not let others influence you... and do not let him talk you into something you do not want to do... not saying that he is doing that... just wanted to say: it is every woman’s very individual and personal choice.

Depends. Some guys I've have slept with after the first date, others I've waited after a few dates. With DH I think we slept together after our 4th date which was him cooking me dinner at his house.

Oh yea 100% my course and I'm not letting others influence me. Just curious about other people's views. I will sleep with him when it feels right.

Choice*

DH was a one night stand, followed by FWB, so I'm not one to look to for advice

When I feel comfortable and I have got to know that person & they have got to know me.

My DH was also a ONS... I’m in the ‘whatever feels comfortable’ camp

I carefully arranged our first date so none of that could happen, then virtually shagged him on platform 6 at London Bridge. Dignified.

Have sex when you really want to. There is no other right time. But preferably get a room.

On platform 6 😂
Tbh I normally have a 3 date rule but now I'm just like meh do whatever feels right

When I know their first name, though that's more a guideline than a rule .

I’m old fashioned & whilst I appreciate its up to individuals for me sex is a huge deal & i think it would be 6months+ for me. I really have to get to know somebody before that level of intimacy

It depends how comfortable you feel really. I slept with my fiancé on the first date. We knew we had a strong connection in the date so he invited himself cheekily in for coffee lol!

I slept wit( DP on the first date. It was a great icebreaker 😂

I agree whenever it feels right, there isn’t a timeline for when intimacy is appropriate.
I am fairly old fashioned though I guess and sex has to be once I know the guy and there is love there.

Meh, if the mood takes me I'm generally not inclined to rein myself in. The mood often takes me fairly quickly... If it doesn't, I probably don't see them again.

I slept with my husband a few hours after I first met him. Don't see the point in waiting if you want to do it.

A long marriage and two long relationships of mine started with sex on the first date. I do think sexual comparability is important so I don't waste time

*compatibility even

Forgot to add, the first night I met my husband, he came to mine and didn't leave for 3 days. We spent the time together getting to know each other, going out for a meal and drinks. We had such a good time getting to know each other, I didn't want him to go and he didn't want to go.

I think OP you are going about this the wrong way, ask yourself why you are asking for a rule. There are no rules. You have to really feel it. But what I have seen in single friends is that they desensitise themselves against feelings and vulnerability in an attempt to appear cool.

For me it's when I feel comfortable. Comfortable that he likes me and isn't just after one thing

I certainly wouldn't sleep with anyone on the third date, because that's what men these days expect. As soon as you say no, they reveal their true, piggy self, and you feel grateful for the chance to escape. A decent man will wait until you're ready, not see you an arbitrary three times and run away if you don't want to sleep with him then. God, dating is shit.

Pringle agreed dating is shit! You feel so uncertain about everything! So far I've seen him twice but I'm doing things different this time as I really like him and I'm gonna make him wait a bit longer for us to sleep together. As you say if he's a gentleman he won't mind waiting a bit longer

Sunshinepimm I think because the majority of men on the dating scene genuinely believe three dates entitles them to sleep with you, waiting more than three dates as a minimum at least lets you screen out those jerks. After the fourth date, you get a better idea of whether person you think you're dating is actually the person you're dating, because the piggy men only have the patience to pretend to be normal for three dates. Their true self then presents itself...

Good luck - I hope this one works out for you!