Hi all, I can't decide if this is going to make me sound totally unhinged or not, but I thought the Msn wisdom could help me gain some perspective.
I have been seeing a guy I met on Tinder for 2 months. He is 32 and I am 29. We have been on roughly 9/10 dates so far. We started sleeping with each other on date 4. From date 3 I told him that I am not into casual dating and that I would prefer to see only him while I get to know him and that I would like to receive the same treatment. He said he was not seeing anyone else and that he was keen on seeing where this thing between us went (which I know is not committing to exclusivity!).
Fast forward to 2 months later, things have been proceeding well, although a little slowly as we can't see each other often due to both traveling a lot for work.
Last week though a friend of mine mentioned that you can see if someone is actively using Tinder if their location keeps updating. Apparently the app only updates someone's location when opened/ used. Since then I realized he is using Tinder - a lot. Every time he travels for work, his location immediately updates. He must be on it most days.
Before anyone jumps at my throat, I know he is not doing anything wrong. We are not together, we are not in a committed relationship, he is not cheating on me. However I think 2 months into dating, if he really liked me he wouldn't be playing the field on Tinder every day. I’d like to see someone who is genuinely very excited about me (the same way I am about him), not someone who is keeping me around as a B plan and looking for something better in the meantime. This discovery is making me feel uneasy about the whole thing, and I am considering to cool it off.
I know many people would be totally cool with dating someone for months while he is still actively using dating apps/ dating around, but I realized that I am not. I appreciate that might mean I should consider whether OLD is for me or not, as that is pretty common practice.