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Husband detroyed my dream

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Lemoncup · 29/07/2018 09:42

My dream since being a child was to have my own 'unbroken' family. I'm from a broken family and its something I said I never wanted for my children but who does?

My mum split from my dad when I was 2 and my brother slightly older, my dad was abusive. She went on to marry my step dad when I was about 5, they had 2 more children. To begin with it was fine but then my younger half siblings were put before my brother and I. My step dad went on to have affairs and then finally left my mum for another woman. He now doesn't even bother with his own children as he's to busy playing the doting dad to hers.
I see my biological dad about twice a year and its always been like that.

I was with my husband for 10years, 3 months ago he left me and our 1year old for another woman. She is only 20 so he has the chance to restart his life, to a certain degree as in marriage, children, the 'perfect family' which I am so angry about. Angry They've already moved in together and are inseparable, my gut says its going to work out for them which also kills me, they'll have what I desperately wanted. I wanted more children he didn't. I know they have already discussed children and he says maybe in the future they will.

I am now a 30 year single mum, living back in my old bedroom, on benefits. Previously I have worked since I was 16 which I gave up to raise our child, I had a gorgeous home and a little family, which I know wasn't perfect but I wanted to work on things. From my experience and from what I've seen step families don't work. I know i'm still young(ish) but my biological clock is ticking and I had difficulties during pregnancy/labour that become a bigger problem with age.

Will I ever be able to trust a man again? Can step families work?
How comes he gets the prefect outcome after causing all this pain and crushing my dreams. Sad

OP posts:
Bubba1234 · 05/08/2018 09:08

From reading your post it sounds like you were over compensating in the relationship trying to have the unbroken home. Unfortunately In life that’s in the minority. The norm is step kids kids with different dads etc.
Try not to focus on this dream you had. Change your perspective.
That relationship didn’t work out so put your energy into a new dream. Find yourself first and the rest will fall into place

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