Possible date

[pinkpixie83]

I have no idea what to do, I have been asked out by a man on Sunday. He's made it very clear he likes me, although from photos as it's online dating. I'll give him credit we have been talking for a month, frequently by text. But from his photos I don't think I find him attractive.
I don't know whether to go Sunday and see or just cease contact.
I wonder if we've just been texting because it's company for each other?
I'm really not very good at this online dating.
WWYD?

Speak on the phone first. It'll give you a much better idea about whether to meet him or not.

He won't swap numbers until we've met as it's a work phone as well.

He won't swap numbers until we've met as it's a work phone as well.

For clarity, I’m a male and not particularly/at all risk averse. I’ve also OLDed in the (fairly distant) past.

Please do not go on this date. “Work phone” is the most pathetic excuse I’ve ever heard.

You must consider both your own safety and the likelihood that he won’t divulge his number because he’s not single and fears a partner seeing notifications/messages from you.

Have to agree with the previous male poster. You are heading into OW territory here.

I was going to say go for it, right up until the point he refused to give you his phone number.

Red flag right there. Walk away now.

Do people really message like that tho for 4 weeks if they have a partner?

Do people really message like that tho for 4 weeks if they have a partner?

Good god yes.

Speaking on the phone tells you a lot about someone. His excuse about the phone though is dodgy.

What’s the problem with it being a work phone anyway?

I was going to say exactly what @ghosting said.

This doesnt sit right op.

I hate online dating. I hate modern technology

Ask him to Skype at least so you can see him /hear his voice . If he objects to that , then he's definitely dodgy .

No FaceTime or Skype call, no date.

The old work phone chestnut. Utter bollocks. I’m thinking, he’s as a minimum in a relationship, even married

Urgh what a chancer!

The work phone is a very very poor excuse. Utter no circumstances fall for it. He's married

Got to love the "work phone" thing. Is he the only person in the UK without access to a phone? And is he on the dating app on his work phone?

If it's a work phone, texts are way more incriminating.

Some people aren't good on the phone, mind.

I’m assuming texts are via the app/dating site they met on - otherwise surely she already has his number?

They could be texting via Skype or Kik which wouldn’t need a number - just a user name. Handily you can voice call through Skype too so you could chat without the need for him to divulge his precious work number.

Absolutely not. If he was keen on you he would have just gone out and got a 5 pound phone for his dating if he really duesbt want to use his work phone.

Ah ok, I don’t know anything about Kik, sorry.

there's no reason why he couldn't have a chat with you over his work phone - esecially if it's also his personal phone. He's hiding something

We've been using Kik, which I had downloaded ages ago but never used and are texting on that lots.
I don't know maybe something isn't right

I wouldnt go out on a date with somewone without chatting on the phone first.