I'm looking for a little bit of perspective please.
I have been official with my boyfriend for coming up to 3 months. Things were great at first but I soon started having some niggles.
I came out of a bad 6 year relationship 18 months ago and I know I still have some walls up due to this.
Firstly, he would message me when I was active on social media but hadn't text him.
He read a text to my sons dad over my shoulder and made a comment about the length of it (it was about food my son had ate and arrangements for next day).
He's struggled to keep it up when we are intimate several times. Haven't thought much of this because it happens but it's been happening more when he overthinks. He's saying I shouldn't say this to him as it makes him feel bad.
He seems quite insecure and needs a lot of reassurance. I struggle with this as I am not his mother and it really irritates me.
To top it off we went out with friends last week and we spoke about holidays and I said yes that's somewhere me and ex went. He completely lost it. Said that my friends and I shouldn't mention my ex in front of him. He is my sons dad, he is going to come up in conversation. He started shouting, then crying when I sent him home. Stormed in and out saying he needed to sort it now whilst patting my leg.
I sent him home and now, over a week later, I'm still really angry. I am not coping with having to constantly reassure him as I don't think I should.
He's downplayed all of this, blamed it on the drink and that he had a LDR so he's new to this. However in my eyes alcohol is no excuse.
He's said it will never happen again but struggling to believe it. I don't think he understands my points at all. He wants to move forward but I am struggling with doing hay because I feel like he just wants it to blow over because he hates feeling bad.
However, I spent my time single working on myself and making myself strong again so now I am wondering if I am being too harsh and I need to help him?