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he doesn't seem to be digging himself into debt..

But one thing is clear. If he ever moves back in again, his name is not going on the tenancy agreement.

He doesn't seem to be.

But seriously, you BOTH need to do some serious work before you can even think about reconciliation, no matter how much your son wants it.

I havent read replies, so sorry if i repeat. I think you need to keep your head on straight. Your son might want daddy home, but please think about how the fighting/aguring did or will effect him if he has to witness this again. I would think carefully about getting back together, and if you two are good for each other if you can do such horrible things for each other.

If you do decide to go for it, please take it slow and get help you both need

Good luck

L

I am going to my counceller tomorrow, and I know he sees her too. I'll talk to her about this - sometimes I get sidetracked but I'll write this all down so I can remember what to talk to her about. God, talk about self indulgant

No, expat, it won't be yet, I know it won't be yet. I am confused about the if, not the when.

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SW - how did your counselling session go? I hope it helped you put all this into context a bit

Hi SoapBox

The councelling was good - she agreed that 'wait and see for a bit' was not a cop out (which is how I feel deep down).

She also talked at length about "Internalising your parents" and "tranferring perceptions of distress" [utterly lost]

She was our relationship councellor (while we still had a relationship) and she knows the whole story, from both sides, so I really trust her perspective on this.

I am really glad I started this thread. I can't talk to anyone about this in RL, as it involves nearly everyone I know, in some way!

Thanks for listening