I'm getting increasingly frustrated at DH who is completely unaware of what is going on around him most of the time. Today, I was settling the baby to sleep whilst he was in the room next to us with our 5 year old who was shouting and singing v loudly. DH had literally just been in the room where I was and commented on the fact that i was trying to settle an over-tired baby. Yet he did nothing to quieten our 5 year old when the noise started and the loudness continued for atleast 5 minutes! The thing is, I doubt he even will have noticed the noise as he often doesn't and I find it strange.
It's a common theme.
Its not just noise. He'll often not notice that his leg is shaking or that the window wipers are still going in the car although it's not raining. He doesn't notice or remember where he puts things, he can't seem to prioritise or see himself or life from an objective viewpoint. He will go to sleep at night with the curtains open when there is a street light outside the window and not even notice that he hasn't shut the curtains.
Before children, I'd thought he was just a bit too laid back, but it's more than that. Its a real insensitivity to his surroundings and I'd say the same applies with feelings too. He cant empathise at all. I also worry that he can't sense or foresee danger when he's with the DCs.
Ive heard of hypersensitivity and the relationship it has to autism, but is there a condition whereby people have the complete opposite problem? I genuinely think DH has some form of condition which is limiting his capacity to be affected by the world around him. He will even sleep under a thick duvet in summer, his body sweating profusely.
It doesn't seem quite right. I've googled and can't find anything. It's like he's just not "with it." He has been like this for a long time. Can anyone help? It's becoming increasingly difficult to live with someone like this.