I have got DS back.

[MrsHappyAndMrCool]

Morning

A few days ago, I posted that DH had taken DS and refused to bring him back, I thought I would post to tell everyone I have him back now.

(I asked for the thread to be deleted, as someone here exposes personal details)

He was returned back to me yesterday afternoon, since he has been back he hasn’t been himself, e.g crying for dad, it almost seems as if he doesn’t want me near him, he is usually the most loving little boy.

I just don’t know what to do, I have an appointment with my solicitor this afternoon, DH knows that I am not going to let him have DS again (well not unattended) after what he has done.

he has now turned that fear into fact OP.. sorry to hear of your troubles

I hope you can both work it out for your son

Gemini69 - He is lieing he knows I would never ever not let him see our son, he says he wants to come home and we can sort things out before we go on holiday (a holiday he has gone along and booked without our consent) he says he wanted it to be a surprise, and he has told DS about it and he is really excited.

I said he can come round tomorrow to talk.

I wouldn't let him over the door.. until you have sought legal advise OP ..
he is desperately covering his arse... because he knows he has fucked up spectacularly.. by nor returning his son at the agreed time ... OP you need to think smart now

Gemini69 - I know, as pathetic as I may sound.. I just want an easy life I will do anything to keep my little boy happy.

by allowing him to be taken from his home... albeit by his Father.... and not returned at an agreed time.... you've just gone into detail about how distressed your little boy has been over the entire situation... not being able to apologise to his Father.... you consider that an easy life .. you're prioritising your Exes needs over your Sons

I still don’t see how you’re legally justified in keeping your ex from seeing his child unsupervised. As your sol has already pointed out, there was nothing (legally) wrong in what he did.

I’d even go so far as to suggest you might try and empathise with him here. You didn’t see your son for three nights. Not great, but it is exactly what your ex, like far too many other Dads, will be forced into if the court imposes the antiquated pattern of EOW and one night a week on him.

Try imagining those three days nc as the pattern for the rest of your life with your son. Your ex, of course, won’t have to “imagine” it - he’ll likely be living it soon enough. Now picture what might have been going through his head last week when he made his ill-thought-out decision.

if a time of return is arranged than it's very different.. when the Child is not returned as agreed.

He is not my EX, we haven’t broken up until we do he is still my husband. I will listen to what he has to say when he comes round today.

“He is not my EX, we haven’t broken up until we do he is still my husband”

Missing the point there, and your status makes it even less legally sound to be restricting access.

I hope you two can work it out - whether that’s the current status of your relationship or how you each get equal quality time with your son going forward.