Anyone else's husbands still awol from football yesterday?

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I know it's exciting but just feel taken advantage of. No text or phone call since yesterday afternoon. I'm so bloody lonely.

Blimey, no, is he a dick in other ways too? Are you worried for his safety or will he be sleeping under a rock somewhere? Poor you, unless he's 15 he really is old enough to know how to behave like an adult. Do you have kids?

Erm no, has he not even called or texted to say where he is and what he's doing?

Yes 3 boys who are climbing the walls wanting to get out but he has the car.
Not worried about safety yet, I'll give him til this afternoon then I might worry.
He just annoys me the way he just assumes I'll be happy staying at home on my own looking after the kids and doing all the cleaning.
Need do get some friends of my own so I can go out and have fun for once while he stays at home!

No. This is not normal.

So he has taken the car (why given he presumably was drinking) and has gone out and there is no sign - you are not worried about him which means this is a regular occurence

he leaves you to go everything and has left it with you having no friends

Not normal or good

Didn't he even watch the match with you and your boys?

If he's been drinking that much he won't be safe to drive now. I'd be really furious. Does he mix with a lot of single guys?

I'd get a cab out somewhere with the dc if I were you - don't let him ruin today as well for you. Then I'd suggest talking to him seriously about your relationship and what he brings to it

That would really annoy me, how inconsiderate. You can't just go off on drinking binges and not come home when you've got a family.

Do you have any idea where he might be?

Don't just shrug and go, "men!" OP. You don't have to put up with this. It's poor role modelling for the boys too.

Of course not! The match was at 3pm. Over by 5.

He sounds like a selfish twat. Does he often do this sort of thing?

I'd work out equal time for you sharpish, then work on making friends and getting out there while he looks after his own DC. Don't be a mug.

He's a dick. Luckily my dh would rather gouge his eyes out than watch football, but when he does go out I always know where he is, roughly what time he'll be back, and we keep in contact, I do the same when I'm out with my friends. It's just common courtesy.

If you don't have any friends of your own to go out with OP then it's definitely time you got some. It sounds like you need a well deserved break.

Mine came home last night, pissed and wobbly. Has left the car about a mile away and is currently snoring so DS has barely seen him all weekend as he went out straight after work yesterday. He doesn't usually watch football, I couldn't put up with this shit on a regular basis. Hope your DH shows up soon OP with a stonking hangover.

Think it might be time to get DS's kazoo and drum kit out...--

Jesus, what a prick. And treating you like some unpaid childminder.

Yes, you need to get some friends. Apart from anything else, it's no good being cut off from the world and having no-one to compare or discuss your own relationship with.

Fair enough if you both get to spend time doing stuff alone, but just assuming you'll be OK with looking after the kids is not respectful. He's taking you for granted, that needs to stop.

What a tossed

Blimey,,i must have been far too lenient with my wimmin. I need to be more selfish.

Erm...no. This is not normal behaviour in my circle. None of the husbands in our friendship group would do this because it's both shitty and irresponsible.

He's coming home.

He came home around 11ish after sleeping on his friends sofa.
I've barely spoken to him as think I'll just cry when I want to be firm with him. He said all the right things when he got in like i love you and appreciate you but is currently lying on the sofa watching tv whilst there is a pile of dishwasher that needs loading.
Actions speak louder than words, right?

Go out. Leave the kids with him and go for a drive or a walk or something

Tell him to get the fuck off the sofa and start showing you that he 'loves you' words are cheap, action speak louder.

Tell him you going out and will be back some time later and you expect him to look after the children and get the house cleaned, tidied and dinner cooked. And they may be you will believe his words.

What a dick. Are you just the childminder?

That’s not acceptable.

Was he expected to be missing overnight? If not he is a dickhead. I would never be away overnight without letting my wife know.

Also if he has had a load to drink last night he shouldn't really have been driving this morning.

As for getting friends and having your own social life - definitely. You might find your OH is fine with this, most men are, but they won't arrange your social life for you! You should both have time for some socialising both separately and as a couple. It is only when it is unbalanced that it is an issue.

A pile of dishes that I'd have already thrown at him! Stand your ground, don't let him treat you like this.