Do these texts sound like this guy is a player?

[TheLastCamel]

There's a man I am really, really attracted to in a way which is unusual for me. I didn't think anything would ever come of it, but I've recently heard from him. In the interest of full disclosure he's my ex tutor from university. I've only seen him for a max of 45 minutes a week for a year, had a few chats but nothing major.

He's sent a couple of strong messages and it's ringing alarm bells. Just seems a bit too "smooth" and intense to be genuine. What do you think? I don't know whether to stay away or if I'm too cynical due to past experiences of knobheads!

Message 1: don't stay away too long as I have a very strong suspicion I could really make you very happy!! Who knows, maybe that would truly be for the first time! Xxx

Message 2: One final thing I'm confused about that you might be able to help me with. How in gods name can a girl as incredible as you ever need to be considering getting back with a guy?!! How did that guy ever manage to be so foolish as to let you go in the first place?! I don't get it! But anyway, you don't really need to answer. Just know I wouldn't make that mistake. I know what I've got when I've got it, and I don't let it go! Especially so if she was as special as you. Just something to think about xxx

Too much to be genuine?! Or am I being cynical??

Yuk.

I feel dirty (and not in a good way).

Your instinct is right. He sounds like a player.

Skin. Crawling.

Ugh, he’s not even good at being a player. He sounds like someone with poor social skills trying his hand at being smooth and failing horribly.
There’s nothing in there that sounds sincere in any way.
This is how I’d imagine Alan partridge would try to woo the ladies.

Message 1 seems like negging - implying you aren't happy - subtle criticism that undermines your self confidence. Pervy fucker.

So slimy and insincere my skin is crawling. And what's with all the exclamation marks, is he 12?

Is he Swiss Toni?

Actually from reading the messages again it sounds like English isn't his first language?

Slimey. Yuck.

I find it hard to believe anyone sends messages like that. They are like old Mills and Boon novels.

Sounds like a guy I know who I was briefly involved with. He would constantly say how amazing I am, that he was obsessed with me blah blah blah. Turned out he had a partner of 10 years at home that he told me he had split from and I was just another in a long line of conquests. I'd say take the cheesy full on texts as a little confidence boost but then RUN RUN RUN!

I wouldn't say a player as I can't imagine those sort of lines work on many people far too cheesy and slimy

Since he's a former tutor and since there isn't a huge age gap (I assume) this isn't really unprofessional or creepy in itself.

Message 1 seems like negging - implying you aren't happy - subtle criticism that undermines your self confidence. Pervy fucker.

That's not really negging. Negging is where you blatantly or subtly insult her. He's saying he can make her happier than she's ever been, which is a bit over the top though.

I don't see how his messages are creepy or slimy. Over the top, but some women will actually appreciate that. It is very hard to strike the right balance.

Listen to the song by lush
This screams that man!!

"Your a five foot mirror for adoring himself"

Bloody love that song but can't remember the name.

My face grimaced as I read those messages.. think that says it all!

Ugh reading those gave me the ick. Avoid!

Lady Killers by Lush

Actually I'll bow to the opinions of the ladies here that very few women would find those messages appealing. So he's probably not a player, just inexperienced.

Hard to strike the right balance?
No it isn’t!
Just chat normally.
At this stage, it’s pretty simple to keep it to “always liked you on the course - fancy a drink?” not all this shite about making her happier than anyone has before

Sounds like the type to call you a bitch the second it doesn't go his way.
Bin him off

I think your cynicism is well founded, sounds like bollocks patter, he's not trying to get to know you as a person, you are just a woman object to be obtained. If he is indeed a player, he must only entice very dim women, ironic.

Do men actually think women full for this bulshit.

As there was chemistry in rl I'm with those saying go on a date. Agree the texts are over the top but it's rare to really fancy someone so have some fun. Not as if OP and he are strangers after all. A shame people don't just pick up the phone as so much can be misinterpreted on a text.

He's oilier than a bag of chips but i reckon if it's a good rogering you're after, you're in.

Vomit inducing nonsense.

What type of person would fall, for lines like that

My first thought is Creep.

But if you really fancy him, my advice would be to go and have a shag and then move on.