I've posted about my plight with an EA man under various usernames in the past. Today, via phone and email exchange, he finally exposed himself as the cruel tyrant he has been for years.
Yet, here I am, posting on a public forum for reassurance and confirmation - such is the extent of the gaslighting I have endured for so long makes me still doubt myself.
Here's an email that I have just sent to EA DP:
A record of what has just happened:
Yesterday you removed my bra from the study and put it in the wash. You did this without informing me. The bra does not look like a regular bra on account of having 2 massive holes in the front to enable pumping.
Me: Earlier today I told you I was feeling particularly vulnerable and told you so (anxiety issues). After searching for said bra, I phoned you asking where it was.
You: You tell me that the whole office can hear me.
Me: I hang up and email instead so not to jepodise your privacy at work.
You: tell me you're alone in the office anyway (bizarre). You also tell me "Ultimately it's your fault for misplacing stuff" (recall, YOU moved the bra; I didn't misplace anything - bizarre).
Notice the language you then used in your emails: "gosh, it's so crazy. I need to remotely locate your bra while sitting in the office? What's in your head? Of all dramas this is the most bizarre I could imagine." This is in the context of you knowing 1) that I'm feeling vulnerable today. 2) That you moved the item.
To clarify: You moved an item and I phoned asking where it was. What is "crazy" about my behaviour there?
Let's look at your behaviour: You denied knowing of an item you moved just a few hours earlier. You also mentioned that "the whole office could hear" when there was no one else in the office.
Which of the two people sound "crazy" here? The one searching for an item that was moved, or the one gaslighting at every turn?
Crazy-making:
www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/having-sex-wanting-intimacy/201403/are-you-in-crazy-making-relationship
Crazy-making is one of the cruelest things you can do to a person and it is one of the most insidious forms of emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is the hardest form of abuse to prove, but today we have the proof at long last. I expect you will minimize, deny, shift blame - it's a textbook response to being called-out. I'm not taking any immediate action so no need to say "If I'm so abusive, fuck off/call police/etc". Another common response to being exposed would be to leave or tell me to leave - an attempt to scare me, control the situation and avoid facing your own behaviour.
You have temporarily let your game weaken and have exposed yourself. Your ex is not an over-reacting psycho. And the fear I feel almost every day is not simply "in my head" or me "being a psycho" as you like to frequently retort.