Left my husband sat in hotel what do I do now?

[Whatdoidonow18]

I've left him, I had to leave my daughter there she's 2 years old.

I don't know what to do, sat in hotel room.

I shouldn't have left the house should i, i shouldn't have left dd with him? He's going to take her off me now.

We are here OP. You can talk to us

100% agree with what Vampyress is saying. Please follow the advice she has given you. Also phone women’s aid now as pp have said and get some advice from them. You’re not a bad mother. This is on him, not you. You have to do something now. Good luck

you are definitely not a bad mother. your circumstances didnt allow to take your dd with you.
agree with Vampyress.
call police immediately and with their help get your dd.
the police may contact womens aid for you or you can do as well.
i hope you have enough charge in your phone battery.
good luck and i think everything will be lots better for you in future.

i am worried about the child now, i hope they will get her out.

can someone do something to help her?

Goodness me chill everyone! She's at home with her father who has never once been violent towards her and mum is planning on going back in the morning.

@Helmlover

You know absolutely nothing of what is happening with the DD right now. She’s hopefully tucked up in bed. Her mother works, so she is used to her not being around for short periods. That is not suffering. OP left without the DD because it is she who knows how best to handle the OH when he is aggressive. So stop with your “facts”.

I find your constant digs far more awful than what OP has done in order to keep things peaceful for her child.

Without derailing, find it curious that OP posted on AIBU thread 10 minutes before starting this one.

Maybe I'm a cynic. Maybe it's coincidence. Or entirely usual.

I can't entirely disagree with the comments about leaving your child with a potentially volatile man being slightly of concern though. But who knows what you'd do in that situation? I'd like to think I would have called the police and gone back.

Helm you are pompous,and you’re not actually adding anything,imparting knowlege
You are just generally hectoring the op and catastrophising with what ifs

And in knowlege op isn’t low in mood, vulnerable and won’t tell you to zip it

I haven't posts on any other threads only this one.

I think I'm going to leave now i need support not women telling me I'm abusing my child i felt shit enough about leaving as it is

Op
There are plenty of helpful, supportive women here who can help and listen to you.

You know your situation better than anyone and you did what you though was right.
Keep talking and please take the good advice from some of the mners

OP please don't let a couple of pompous cunts run you off a thread that on the whole is being supportive.

@Helmlover you are not helping p**s off 🖕🏻

@Whatdoidonow18 you are not a terrible mother at all. It easy for other people to judge but it's not them that is going through this it's you.

No posts under this name except in this thread, so not sure what pp is talking about but remember troll hunting is banned.
OP's situation is sadly all too believable.

if you're in a crisis as a parent, don't come to MN. honestly its the pits, lots of v unpleasant even nutz women who know absolutely nothing yet telling you what to do plus what a crap parent you are. IGNORE THEM.

take care of yourself tonight.

think about your DD tomorrow.

you will be alright, fine even.

Ok, dd should be fine tonight. Horrible partner won't be a danger to her - he will be busily figuring out how he can use her as leverage to get you to return though.

Call the police, explain the situation, & that you need to be reunited with dd in the morning whether you return to the house & partner leaves, or you take her somewhere safe. Explain that he has previously been violent towards you.

Don't leave dd there beyond tomorrow morning. A friend of mine left her partner, & left her children with him, intending to collect them once she had secured accommodation. The ex secured residency because he was still living in the family home with the dc & my mate had left.

You need to try to sleep tonight. But it would be a good idea to call Women's Aid to explain the circumstances. Be ready to move on things in the morning - don't leave it.

Going away for work isn't a good idea in the near future. You're in shock & trying to keep some things normal. But you absolutely do not want your partner claiming that he is the main carer etc etc.

He can use the threat of keeping your dd to coerce you into returning.

You need this logged tonight, & support in the morning to sort things out so you & dd are together & partner can't hurt you.

It will all be fine btw. Well done for taking the steps to protect you both.

You're not going to lose your DD because you went to stay in a hotel for a night and anybody saying that you are is batshit!

How’s things this morning, OP? I hope you got some sleep. What is your plan now?

I doubt she's coming back on here.

To the posters who said she should have taken her daughter with her - ok if that's the message you wanted to get across, but I'd ask you to think about how you said it. There are many ways to tell people what you think - and when you're talking to someone who is at one of the lowest points in their life, there are sensitive and insensitive ways to phrase things. You could have got your point across whilst remaining supportive of her.

Helmlover you should be ashamed of yourself. That poor woman posted on here in desperation for support and you’ve driven her away. Shame on you. Shame on you.

Hope you managed some sleep OP. Did you call Women's Aid?

There’s a type of poster has the same ole speech,think Peggy Mitchell delivery
The I love my kids,I’d Nevah let anyone hurt em,do anyfink for them, you get me
And irrespective of whatever op has posted the love my kids speech is spouted
As if the op will suddenly acquire a car,a van,a helicopter,a passing mob with hammers, to go and get them kids back
If op tries to explain difficulties,hurdles that mean she cannot immediately be with her kid this is met with,do anyfinkfor me kids me

There’s another thread on go, woman discussing her ex and contact he has with baby
Up it pop the I’d do anyfink for my kids speech, why did you let him take his own kid.
I’d do anyfink me...lie in front of a bulldozer,hire a plane,develop superpowers...for my kids

It’s all a bit much
Sat at home,giving it large to someone in a rotten situation

LipstickHandbagCoffee

That is such an apt description. I can’t stand that kind of pious posturing!