I've fucked up and i dont know how to fix it.

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Been with do 12 months. No arguments stuff been great. I've been having a really tough time atm with life and not coping very well with stuff.
My dp out earns me by alot and it doesnt bother me 99% of the time. I always pay my own way etc. But today he was going on about buying some designer clothes just because he felt like a treat (I understand there is nothing wrong with this, he works hard for his money) and i just blew up, i dont know why, but i said to him "how do you think it makes me feel when i haven't got a pot piss in and have to choose between feeding myself and clothing my baby and you prance around showing off thing youve bought all the time, it makes me feel like a failure" Understandably he got very upset and defensive and has ended things as I'm "clearly only after his money, he cant belive i would something like that and his ex was financially abusive towards him so its clearly a big red flag and he doesnt want to speak to me again" im heartbroken and dont know what to do. I feel like the biggest bitch on he planet. On top of everything else in my life, my best friend died last month and i dont have anyone else to talk to. If it wasn't for my daughter i dont what I'd do.
Please be kind i know i was out of line but very delicate atm and dont need another kicking. How can I fix this?

Well done OP. NotASingle, no, how silly. Pay closer attention to the OP’s posts. His attitude and mode of behaviour is clear.

He now wants you running back and apologising to put himself back in control....don’t do it.

I agree ^

Don't reply. He really really doesn't deserve another seconds thought from you. As pps have said, widen your social circle, have some (cheap!) fun - and consider yourself lucky to be free of this self - absorbed man.

Personally OP I don't think you've done anything wrong. What kind of a boyfriend goes around flashing his cash around and talking about buying himself designer clothes when his girlfriend is struggling to make ends meet and look after her baby. Granted, the baby isn't his but surely you come as a package?
You deserve someone to come along and treat you right. Someone who is your friend as well as your lover. Always be true to yourself and listen to that inner voice inside of you.

I'm sorry this has happened OP.. but at least now you can focus on you and your Baby instead of this idiot man...

What you said wasn’t terrible but it was a reflection of how you feel about the income disparity between you and that wasn’t going to change anytime soon. There was a way to communicate how you felt without it being an attack and maybe ‘never arguing’ ((why do so many see that as the ultimate relationship virtue), was a sign you weren’t being as open as you could have been. Sometimes you can’t take things back, however sorry you are.

What you said, wether you agree or not was a dealbreaker for him and as such he has the right lo end a relationship that crossed a line for him. Next time don’t put all your eggs in one basket and make a newish man your everything.

He sounds like an arse. I've had friend struggling financially and have tried to do things that we can all afford and help them rather than brag about my puechases