Is the guy I'm chatting with a racist?

[joan04]

Long time lurker but new poster here. Long story short I am currently going through a divorce but the marriage ended last year so I have kind of been on the dating scene. I also have a couple of kids and my ex and I are doing everything possible to make it easier on them.

I got chatting to a guy from a dating app last year and we went on a few dates which were nice and he was very charming but it wasn't the right timing for me so it kind of fizzled out. Recently got back in touch with him and we have been chatting a lot on texts, like a lot! I think it's getting to the point whereby we'll meet up again. We just seem to get on well and he is also divorced with kids himself so it seems a good match.

However I'm now wondering if he's a racist, I don't claim to know much about politics and aside from the odd post on FB there was nothing that really concerned me. But I recently stumbled upon his twitter account and it just seems a bit off. Lots of posts and retweets about free Tommy Robinson, anti-Islam posts, pro Trump stuff and that kind of thing which just seem a bit nasty in all honesty.

Just a bit worried and don't know whether I should mention it to him or even walk away. Some of my best friends aren't British.

Your updates make him sound awful. People show their best side initially and to say anything negative about the Grenfell incident...towards the residents would definetly be the end for me.

Having supported the families of the deceased and found it very difficult emotionally, the only thing I felt was compassion.

Don't be gutted that you've decided not to date a racist, be proud, move on.

I ended it with him on texts, didn't make a song and dance about it, just told him I'd met somebody else.

Hope you're okay, OP.

I just feel very involved with him. He's been so nice on texts, is always there for me and gives me such good advice with everything especially with the whole divorce and kids thing.
You met him a couple of times and didn't even realise his political leanings; I think you're making a lot more of this than is a good idea. You're starting to rely on someone you hardly know for help. You're just out of a relationship and vulnerable and want to be loved. It's easy to be charming with someone who doesn't know you that well.

Oh, missed the last post.

I also met someone really charming straight after splitting up (similar age, long marriage). It was so amazing being treated like someone desirable again, and he was very good at saying the right thing at the right moment. Even as he was saying it I thought it was a bit too perfect, though (and I was right). It's so tempting though, isn't it?

He doesn't live near me, a good hours drive away on the other side of London so it's not as though we'll ever run into each other and I don't really think anything would have come of it anyway because of that.

Well done. Stay clear of bigoted people. Good stuff.

Yes well done for dealing with it, you dodged a bullet

nope not remotely racist. marry him.