Is anyone else like this with other peoples babies?

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I'm two months pregnant with a much longed for baby (after IVF treatment) I'm really excited about being a Mum at long last but.... am I weird that I don't feel drawn to everyone elses babies.

When my friends have babies once I get to know them I develop a bond and love them to bits but at work when someone brings in a baby I don't know I don't really want to immediately pick the baby up and blow bubbles to it. This has happend today and I felt like everyone was judging me because I kept my distance and wasn't the first one rushing to pick the baby up and give him a cuddle, its like as the pregnant woman I'm expected to be the most excited when someone elses baby is presented to me. I know I'll love my own baby as I can't wait to be a Mum but this is making me feel a bit freakish. Does anyone else get like this or is it just me?

You're not alone. I'm 34 weeks pregnant and don't tend to want to pick up other people's babies straight away. I have never been a big coo-er, but am looking forward to meeting my little man when he gets here in 6 weeks or so.

Hope that makes you feel better

other people's babies are just mewling little alien pig-faced things though

unless you're having that momentary hormonal surge .. or get a sniff of their heads

don't worry you're normal and it has absolutely no relation to how you'll feel about your own child and how you'll be totally sure that everyone else is just jealous because yours is so gorgeous and theyafter all have mewling little alien pig-faced things as mentioned above

oh and congrats

I don't know if other people's babies want to be picked up by every stranger they encounter TBH

Since having dd, I am ok with any one's babies and I'll pick them all up gladly but before motherhood, I wasn't interested in them at all. Weird...

Thanks girls I do feel better now, its been getting to me a bit this afternoon as I noticed a few funny looks from a couple of the other girls in the office.

I am much more at ease with babies than I was before I had ds and so now I love holding other people's babies. Particularly now that my own ds is past the baby stage - I am sometimes a bit nostalgic I think.

Saw a friend new baby the other day and it was gorgeous and had that new baby smell and my hormones just kicked in. They never did that before I had my own.

nope other people kids are crap.

TBH I don't really like any babies apart from DS. I think they all look ugly (apart from him) and are boring (again, apart from him). I expect it's because DS is unnaturally beautiful and intelligent

I never say this, naturally, I tell the other mothers what beautiful children they have and feign excitement over the fact that they can clap or whatever the new accomplishment is. But secretly I know that DS is the only baby worth getting excited about.

Honestly don't worry, you'll love your own child!

I have 3 DC's and loved the baby stage sooo much, but I never want to hold other peoples babies, even my best friends, and my niece, ( although she was in hostpital with lots of tubes and wires, so extra scary). Other peoples newborns terrify me.

Oh, and after you have your own baby, you will realise how ugly everyone elses baby is.

I was the same as you when pg, but have changed a bit since having ds! I remember someone at work bringing in their baby when I was 6 months pg and it being brought straight over to me as if I had something to do with it! I got a dirty look when it became clear I wasn't particularly interested!

As I said though, now ds is here I have changed and can't wait to get a look at new babies.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

all babies are ugly.

I generally do like kids, other people's and my own. I don't LOVE them the way I do my own, but to write them all off because they are not your own progeny is a bit extreme (and a bit narcissistic) imo.

I think that most children are great, much more interesting (and honest!) than many adults - but I am in a minority here, I guess.

Custardo , you never saw my babies

def deluded mother.

all babies IMO are

Babies are beautiful, all adults are ugly.

no i can understand.
i love babies but have had my 3, before then, particularly when pregnant, would shy away.. espiclaly since everyone expected you to go gaga

Didn't love other people's babies before ds and still don't. Didn't expect people to go gaga over my own either.

I never felt anything for anybodys baby except mine. I think SIL was a bit disappointed in me that I didnt go gooey when she brought her baby into the room.

God i hate all bald babies, and especially ones with huge heads and big boggly eyes. and some of them have wonky, flat heads at the back. Gross.
My ds was a real ugger bugger as a baby (bald and huge head)and i knew everyone else was thinking it too!
dd had lovely hair and delicate small head.

ok i dont HATE, rather, i dislike..

Before I had ds I was one of those annoying type of people who would coo over random babies but since having ds other babies just don't do it for me anymore, I can take em or leave em.

am not in the slightest maternal (don't tell DS). Can't imagine why I would coo over other peoples unintersting babies when I have a child wonder of my own at home.

But d oagree i'm much less scared of babies than I used to be, gave then a VERY wide berth before, now merely uninterested (except for politeness sake of course)

I'm 36 weeks pg and a few weeks ago I cried after spending the afternoon with a friends 3 yr old DS! It was just the shock at "what have I let myself in for?"! Also horrified at all the smelly noisy annoying kids at the swimming pool on sunday when I just wanted to sit and take a load off my bump. I thought "I'm going to be such a bad mother" and I need to learn to enjoy these sorts of activities. But someone pointed out to me that you don't just get landed with a 3 year old noisy brat. They grow from a tiny baby into a 3 year old noisy brat and it's so gradual and they are your own so you see past all the yucky stuff!