Is anyone else like this with other peoples babies?

[jellyjem]

I'm two months pregnant with a much longed for baby (after IVF treatment) I'm really excited about being a Mum at long last but.... am I weird that I don't feel drawn to everyone elses babies.

When my friends have babies once I get to know them I develop a bond and love them to bits but at work when someone brings in a baby I don't know I don't really want to immediately pick the baby up and blow bubbles to it. This has happend today and I felt like everyone was judging me because I kept my distance and wasn't the first one rushing to pick the baby up and give him a cuddle, its like as the pregnant woman I'm expected to be the most excited when someone elses baby is presented to me. I know I'll love my own baby as I can't wait to be a Mum but this is making me feel a bit freakish. Does anyone else get like this or is it just me?

I'm never drawn to other people's babies either. I'm still finding it odd how much attention DD (10 weeks) gets everywhere we go

Ah, don't worry about it, Jelly. I've always avoided small babies because they're incredibly dull, and it hurts to keep a fixed smile on my face!

It bears no reflection on your forthcoming motherhood (and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!).

I cried at a Neneh Cherry video the other day though but thats just the way Im feeling

Other people's babies don't do much for me. Sometimes I pretend to want to hold them, but that's only to make the parents feel good, not cos I have any real urge to do so.

I'm not that wild about other people's toddlers either.

Other people's school age children and teenagers are often ok. but you don't usually have to cuddle them.

You've all made me feel much more normal

I think quite a lot of it with me is confidence around babies. Once they are 8 months or so and they have their own little personality I find it much easier but I don't really know what to do with very young babies and I'm always scared of dropping them or holding them wrong. I'm hoping its going to come natural with my own.

I'm the opposite-I adore babies,can't keep my hands off them.Obviously I don't go around mauling them,ask permission first but am strangely drawn to the under ones ..but not broody for one myself.
Maybe I should get a job in a nursery

Don't worry, I was exactly the same before I had dd, and I worried too that I wouldn't know what to do with dd. I kept getting reassured that it would all come naturally and it did.

I'm not particularly interested in other peoples children either. After all, they could never be as great as mine!!! I think this is pretty normal tbh. I love my friends children, but that is because I know them, confronted with a strangers baby I feel no spark of interest at all...

Jelly, you're just one of those people who doesn't go mental over babies. I have zero interest in them too.

I love the very bones of my DC but other people's hold no appeal. My friends' children are ok though.

I get irritated with people who simper, sigh and gasp over babies and puppies.

JellyJem what you're feeling is totally normal. I speak as a person who, at around 30 weeks pregnant, didn't rush to queue up to cuddle the newborn son of a work colleague who had brought him in to the office to show him off. Another colleague stepped aside for me to take her place in the cuddle queue and when I said I was quite happy to simply look on she loudly proclaimed to the gathering "well, you're not going to make much of a mother then are you". I was mortified and it stuck with me but I can assure you I absolutely adore my DH and would happily die for him. Oh, and everyone tells me I'm a great mum too

And I've never felt any differently about OPs children/babies since I've had my own either. Don't worry - the amount of babies you cuddle and coo over is no measure of how good a mum you will be or are or how nice a person you are either.

Sorry meant to say I adore my DS and would die for him . I adore my DH too but not so sure if I'd happily die for him !

I was never much of a coochie coochie coo person with other babies. Think they get passed around so much that they don't want to be mauled by everyone in the room! Was always more than happy to cuddle if the parents wanted me to. Now have my own 6 month DS and and quite happy playing peekaboo and cuddling, but still don't go bonkers over other little ones. Don't worry jellyjem you will be fine .

I don't particularly go mad for other people's children unless I know them as people in their own right. newborns never did it for me until dh had the snip and I realised that I would never have another one of my own to rock, and I am marginally more clucky now....