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Who was single 35 and went on to have children/marriage

62 replies

Willing2acceptAdvice · 25/06/2018 19:07

Hi all,

I was wondering if some of you could give me your stories. I’m not journalists or similar. I just have a few concerns about a predicament I’m in and could do with your stories to give me light at the end of my tunnel.

Who here was single 34, 35 + and went on to have a family and children? How old was your partner when you met him or her?

Thanks a million in advance

OP posts:
Matilda1981 · 25/06/2018 19:10

Not quite the same but I was single at 33 through divorce with a 3 year old and an 18 month old......I met my current partner when I was 35 and we are engaged with a baby in the way - he is my absolute soul mate - he’s 9 years younger than me so I did take some persuading to go out with him but he’d apparently decided I was the one two years before we got together and I didn’t even know!!!

09chelle74 · 25/06/2018 19:48

Single 36, had baby 39 in on off relationship . Once baby arrived it was totally off . Now 5 years later happily engaged and trying for another .

JudgeTinder · 25/06/2018 19:54

I met my husband when I was 33 (nearly 34) married when I was 35 and just had our first baby at 37. I realise I left it kinda last minute but it worked out for us!

Frosty66612 · 25/06/2018 20:00

My mum met my dad at 35 and then had me at 36 going on 37.

SolidarityGdansk · 25/06/2018 20:03

I left it very late!

39 - met DH
40 - married
41 - conceived
42 - had DS

I have always done a everything last minutes. I would not recommend it

tmc14 · 25/06/2018 20:03

Met husband at 34, married at 37, first baby that same year. Hoping to squeeze another child in if we’re lucky enough (am 38 now).

tmc14 · 25/06/2018 20:05

Should add... husband is 5 years older.

AiredaleFan · 25/06/2018 20:06

I met my husband just before I turned 36. After a long distance relationship for 18 months we moved in together - very rocky to start with but we made it work. Started TTC when I was 40. Had our daughter 2 years ago (aged 43 - me not her obviously) through IVF. Would like to have another but my age is against us unfortunately. Married last year.

muffinthepuffin · 25/06/2018 20:06

Met DH at 34 3/4, had DC1 at 37 3/4 Grin got married at 38 and having DC2 at 39 1/2 this year

DuchyDuke · 25/06/2018 20:09

Cousin was single at 34, dated at 36 then married at 37; first kid at 40, second kid at 42. Another cousin was single until 35, had a whirlwind romance, and then five kids between 39 and 46!

Smellybluecheese · 25/06/2018 20:15

Met husband at 34, married at 38, first child 41 (didn’t start trying until 41...happened quickly).

itsgoodtobehome · 25/06/2018 20:49

Met husband at 37, married at 39. Had baby at 41. Wanted a second, but it’s never happened, but I have been very lucky. DH is 3 years younger than me.

TaighNamGastaOrt · 25/06/2018 21:47

Never thought I'd have a family, but I do! Met future DH at 34, had DC 35, married at 37. DH is 5 years older than me.

Kingsclerelass · 25/06/2018 21:50

Single @ 36,met dp at 42, had ds (a lovely surprise at 45.

Cauliflowershower · 25/06/2018 21:52

My friend. Who has the loveliest relationship, children and house of anyone I know

user1471530109 · 25/06/2018 21:53

Where did you all meet your now husbands?

I'm really not a fan of OLD but thinking there really is no other way now. 37. Have 2dc which I'm very very grateful for, but doesn't help with the meeting anyone!

Drycleanonly7 · 25/06/2018 22:03

Me! Online dating and I met my now husband at 38. Gave birth to our wonderful boy at 41. It was a tough delivery and exhausting but worth it. It can and does happen. Keep the faith. Would have loved a large family but am 45 now. Still hoping for another but know we are pushing it.

londonloves · 25/06/2018 22:11

Single at 34. Met partner aged nearly 35. Just turned 37 - have a nine month old baby and we are getting g married in 10 weeks.

AlbaFloss · 25/06/2018 22:14

Me plus LOADS of people in my circle. Just got to get out there. Gym, evening classes, OLD. Best of luck.

seizethecuttlefish · 25/06/2018 22:14

Single at 35. Married at 36 (yep, that quick). First baby at 37. Second at 42. When you know, you know!

londonloves · 25/06/2018 22:22

Met him through shared musical interest - a choir actually. (Women vastly outnumber men in the singing world though so I was pretty lucky!) I hated OLd and had given up hope.

Ohyesiam · 25/06/2018 22:27

Met at 36(he was too)
First child 38
Second at 41.
Still together, still in love( at least a lot of the time Wink)

Nightmanagerfan · 25/06/2018 22:29

Met DH at 35. Married at 37. Was pregnant at 38 but lost baby at 14 weeks. Still 38 and will try again soon. Age a factor in losing pregnancy but equally can happen to anyone.

We met at work! Really.

untilthatday · 25/06/2018 22:31

34 met husband to be. First baby at 37 second at 39. Now divorced but at least we have the kids and he's very much on the scene in terms of parenting.

untilthatday · 25/06/2018 22:32

Oh and I had first stage fertility treatment, clomid for baby number one then baby numero dos was a complete surprise, not least of all because we were barely relating by then!