Help me deal with my **** of a brother.

[prufrock]

This is going to be long

My brother is 26. 16 months ago he broke up with is girlfriend of 3 years who had cheated on him and treated him really badly. I had no hesitation in saying that he could come and live with us until he got himself sorted. He moved out last weekend.

Over the last 16 months he has treated me and my house with a complete lack of respect. Soon after he moved here he started going out with a girl, N, who is a dopehead, and he started smoking a lot himslef. He continually broke my one rule of no smoking in the house, and even brought weed in. Whenever I challenged him he would lie terribly - saying the smell was from his clothes, the stubs were ones he'd smoked elsewhere and brought home.....

I encouraged him to go to the doctors as I felt he was depressed - I recognized it because I was diagnosed myself the week before he arrived (I'm now better). He started AD's twice and stopped both times. 6 mopnths ago he finally started takingt them seriously, but has still not "got around" to organising the counselling sessions he can get very easily through work.

so what excuse does your mum have for not repaying you the £6000 you lent her son? and why is he not living with her?

seems like she's all for you making all the sacrifices to support him, but god forbid she actually does anything herself. she's walking all over you, and so is he.

my blood would be boiling.

so this is what i would do:

1. if you can, keep schtum and enjoy the holiday. be civil, but don't go beyond and have a good time. don't do him any more favours.
2. if you feel you'll be too angry and may explode, or may not enjoy the holiday because of this, have it out with him beforehand. do not speak to your mum about the issue. she's not helping him, so she doesn't get a say in what you do.

good luck. i'll LOVE to have a fantastic sister like you. they don't deserve you.

oh sorry - i didn't see you've already on the holiday!