What do you miss about your ex’s?

[Emboo19]

I know these threads are usually the opposite.
I know we don’t work, I know I don’t want him back now and I know someday I’ll find someone who ticks all the boxes and is right for me (or at least I have hope I will).

BUT........there’s things I still really miss about him and I can’t be the only one can I?
Some are practical stuff, he always sorted and cleaned the car, it’s currently filthy which is what made he think of this. And he was good with diy/odd jobs, now I find myself buying shelves or something and having to try do them myself (diy ain’t my thing) or wait and wait until I can get someone to do it for me.
Mostly it’s our conversations, we could talk and talk about absolute rubbish sometimes but it was lovely, and sex! I can’t deny he’s still the best I’ve had and I do miss it.

Of course I don’t miss his selfishness and head fuckery or him cheating on me!

And spiders! He got the spiders.

I don’t miss fuck all - he was a selfish pig who only thought of himself

Happy with my lot now two loving adult kids who have nothing to do with him as he has let them down too, a grandaughter who is wonderful and a loving partner.

My ex husband made the best roast potatoes with garlic and rosemary. He used to freeze them too so that he could heat them up and have them ready for me when I got home drunk.

I don't miss anything else though.

My ex did make a really nice curry, but I was dating someone else for a little while and he was an amazing cook. So that made my ex’s one good meal, seem a bit poor really.

The talking is the hardest, I still find myself thinking of things to tell him and I then I remember we don’t do that anymore. I think the practical things will get easier the more I do them for myself.,

Errrrrm.....?

Nope, can't think of a single thing I miss about him. He treated me so badly I actually HATED him for a while after I threw him out. I'd never felt all actual hatred before. It was a frightening feeling to be honest.

It wore off and I'm pleased to now feel absolutely nothing for the man. But I have nothing to miss.

Not the spiders though, I don’t think they’ll get easier. But my mums not too far and she’ll come if it’s huge I’m desperate.

my first proper boyf I think I miss how sociable he was and that he seemed to make friends with everyone. I got to know a lot of cool people through him and although he was a bastards in a lot of ways , I do miss this aspect. It was OTT at the time though.
My ex husband I think I miss being able to do that many drugs and still function. He gave me stories to tell. I don't think I have much to thank him for the except ds1 but I know some interesting people through him too I guess. I miss how he used to be able to fix stuff.

Those who miss nothing, was it like that straight away or did it take time?
I don’t know why I’m struggling so much

Currently I just miss him. He was practical and that's something I'm not great at.

I miss company more than anything tho. That having someone else at home, to talk to or to watch tv with. The proper simple things

Nothing! I don’t miss any of their old shit!

I miss his hugs. When he hugged me it was so loving and made me feel protected and happy. But there’s literally nothing else I miss. He didn’t help around the house, he was abusive and the sex was crap! Finally realised that good hugs didn’t make up for the rest of it! I’m happy being single but yes I do miss those hugs.

Not a damn thing. I have massively upgraded.

That’s it pinkpixie I think it’s misding having someone here. How long have you been separated? It’s been about 9 months for us, but I was back living at home and dating someone and we’ve been back and forth with trying again and then not.

Now it’s me and dd in our own house and unis finished for summer and my friends have gone home or traveling or are working. And it’s just me and dd or just me when she’s with him. And I miss the stupid idiot and miss us being a family.

He’ll be bringing dd home soon because he ‘needs’ to go watch the football and I want to say stay and talk to me (I won’t do!)

Missing what’s misding

DIY, putting out the bins, cleaning the cars and his lasagne was the best ever.

There is lots that I don't miss about him.

He is still involved as a parent so I do have support, both financial and as a sounding board - I would greatly miss that if it were absent.

i think the ones that dont miss there exes tend to be the ones who had bad relationships or ended it with their ex (rather than ex ending it with them.) i miss loads! the company, the cleaning (he was the one that was always tidying up), the sex! i could go on...sigh yeh i do miss him. almost messaged him last night but had to stop myself.

When we were on countdown to him leaving, I thought I would miss having another adult around, but it quickly became evident that I didn't have the knot of nerves in my stomach that I usually would as his return time approached. And there was no atmosphere in the house.

I don't know how I didn't see that before.

@Emboo19 I don't miss my exH, he was an emotional bully.
I do miss my ex boyfriend since him tho. We've been split up nearly 2 years but I just can't get over him. I thought he was my future.

He was funny, very funny. That's it really. He was also spiteful, attacking and controlling. So I don't miss him at all but I still think of some of the observations he made or stories he told and laugh, even almost a decade after the split.

The sex and the back rubs

A flat in a really cool part of London (zone 2) a few minutes walk from a tube station and famous neighbours.

I had to think long and hard and I miss nothing literally zilch. And it was me who broke up with him (dds father) i hated him too for a while was even scared of him as he was a unstable, nasty hot headed mess but i now look back and all that's gone I feel pity for him as he's still a mess and blames me for it going bad when we met 🙄 yeah ok. I think back and think I would either be seriously Injured and massively in debt if we would have stayed together ! He is in dd life and they have a good bond but I literally think what did I ever see in him ! It's early days it's takes time !
But I always think if are meant to be then you don't break up in the first place xx

Well you broke my heart
But it healed alright
Now we're far apart
And I don't lie awake at night
But every once in a while
Right out of the blue
I remember you

His salary.