What do you miss about your ex’s?

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I know these threads are usually the opposite.
I know we don’t work, I know I don’t want him back now and I know someday I’ll find someone who ticks all the boxes and is right for me (or at least I have hope I will).

BUT........there’s things I still really miss about him and I can’t be the only one can I?
Some are practical stuff, he always sorted and cleaned the car, it’s currently filthy which is what made he think of this. And he was good with diy/odd jobs, now I find myself buying shelves or something and having to try do them myself (diy ain’t my thing) or wait and wait until I can get someone to do it for me.
Mostly it’s our conversations, we could talk and talk about absolute rubbish sometimes but it was lovely, and sex! I can’t deny he’s still the best I’ve had and I do miss it.

Of course I don’t miss his selfishness and head fuckery or him cheating on me!

He had a lovely house, we never lived together but it was really nice, and he could drive. Neither my current husband or I drive, so when I was with my ex it was nice to be able to get in his car and go to the shops or whatever.

The spot on his back. I had many pleasurable evenings over many years squeezing it. It was a permanent and bottomless spot.

I miss it.

I do miss mine a bit. He was a nice guy and we met at uni and sort of grew up together. But I fell really really hard for DP and it all got very messy.

I done him wrong; 27 years on and I still feel bad about it. I hope he's had a nice life with someone who appreciates him.

I miss fuck all about ExH - abusive lying tosser.

ExDP though - lots. I miss watching him play with our D.C. I miss how much I laughed when I was with him. I miss being pranked by him and getting my own back. I miss how much fun he was - I’m naturally quite serious but he had this knack of bringing out the fun in me.

I also really miss his Mums cooking but she sends me stuff sometimes

I ended things and I dont actully want him back. He’s done too much shit for that to be possible now. But when we were good, we were really good and that’s what I miss.

And he turned up to drop dd off, looking and smelling gorgeous. I’m sure he does it on purpose he had my favourite t shirt of his on and my favourite aftershave and he was being super lovely daddy dickhead.

He had some magnificent spots on his hairy arse, and allowed me a free hand to squeeze them. I'll always have happy memories of that blackhead. It was so big and thick and ancient it left a permanent dent.

Apart from that, nothing. He was an abusive, controlling twat who destroyed me. I look at him now and feel nothing. I thought we were happy when we were together. We weren't, we just existed as co-parents.

But god, I miss the fun I had easing out those blackheads

I don't miss anything about any of my exes except one, the guy I dated off and on for a couple of years immediately before meeting DH.

I have no wish to get back with him, or even see him again, and I'm aware that the relationship was unhealthy in a lot of ways. What I miss though is the conversation; we shared a dark and often inappropriate sense of humour and could bounce off each other all day, thinking we were a fantastic double act. DH is by far the nicer person, but is way more straitlaced, so like a PP said, I sometimes find myself thinking of things to tell my ex, then remembering a split second later that we don't talk now.

I guess I wish that ex and I had never taken the relationship beyond friendship, then maybe we'd still have the good stuff now but have spared ourselves months of heartache.

His mum, she was lovely. No idea where it went wrong with him poor woman.

He made a lovely madeira cake. But hey ho, buying it instead is a small price to pay.

What do I miss about my ex?

Sod all!

I miss my first boyfriend sometimes the one I had when I was a teenager. The year I dated him was probably the happiest, most carefree year of my life- up until this past year or so with my current partner. But he is quite similar to the first boyfriend and I’m friends with him now but obviously both of us have changed since we were 17....

I don’t miss my kids’ Dad. No way. Abusive in every single way, drug addict, treats our kids like crap still. Nope. Nothing to miss about that cunt.

One ex I miss the way my heart would race around him. Sadly wasn’t meant to be although there is part of me that will always care annoyingly.

Sadeye that is both gross and intriguing at the same time 🤔

There’s much I do not miss about my ex but he wasn’t completely bad else I’d never have kept allowing him back in. Mostly I miss the sex, we were both very adventurous. He used to make me coffee in the mornings and would deliver it to me whilst I was showering, we called it morning shower coffee. This evolved to include cocktails and beers (in the evenings.

I also miss being able to talk to him about anything be it law, politics, history, tv, sex etc.

Unfortunately we had many problems that could not be overcome.

Fuck all the over sensitive cunt

I’d forgotten about my morning cup of tea didsomeonesaybunny.When we first split up I missed that morning tea and kiss on my forehead so much.

I think if we’d not had dd, we’d have split up and he’d always have been my first love the one who taught me so much but who inevitably wasn’t right for me. It’s having dd that makes it difficult (of course I wouldn’t change her for the world) but who was supposed to just be a happy memory of my first real relationship is the father of my child.
It’s so hard though, I know we don’t work but then he’s just text to ask if he can call round. He can read me like a book and he’ll know I’m having a slight regretful day. Him c oming roung is nothing but a invitation to sex, despite what he says.

Nothing. Not a thing
Turns out I didnt need him after all and I can run a home / bring up kids/ manage money perfectly well without him
Definitely not missing the bruises and verbal bullying
It’s all good

so much :(.

That he really really cared for me and I was too much of an idiot to see that.

One ex gave ready astounding head.

Another had an amazing record collection, industrial speakers and was a really good DH. We shared a lot of memories as friends before going out.

Another was a time served carpenter (before he went on to do a PhD in physics) and he did really excellent diy to the most exacting standard. He couldn’t cook for toffee though so he always suggested we ate out and picked up the tab.

Another was a roadie and got into all the best gigs and after parties. Knew how to stay up all night in style too...

One had the cutest dark dark brown eyes.

One planned great dates- picnic on Brighton beach, meet me for coffee after work turned out to be cocktails at the Ritz, surprise party at a champagne bar.

His Mum, being with the father of my children, sex, the sense of stability he provided in some ways. However some of those things stopped way before we split up (like the sex), so really I miss what things were like when things were okay between us.

I don’t miss being given the silent treatment for weeks on end, the complete lack of affection or interest he showed me, his short temper, walking on eggshells, his not putting any family property in my name, his lies.

ExH put fuel in the car and picked up milk in the petrol station.
I had to have black coffee a couple of times until I got into the routine of doing it myself but that's all I can think of.

He's an ex,why would I miss it?
He was a violent alcoholic.

Amazing sex. The money.
That's it.

My ex made me laugh, he had a stupid sense of humour just like me and was very quick witted. Sadly he didn't take anything else in life seriously though either and was useless at being an adult/partner/dad. My DH is very stiff upper lip and I do miss the fun sometimes, although he's a million times better as a person.

I also once dated a guy for a few months who was a total twat but had a lovely sister I clicked with. I miss his sister not him.