Dp sudden rages ruining our lives

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My dp can be a very loving,caring person but recently he's started going into sudden anger rages for little or no reason.

An example was last week the wrong cat food was delivered so he was fine about it to the delivery driver, accepted the food, then when the cat didn't want to eat it he started shouting and raging how f*cking Sainsbury's cant even deliver the right food. He was literally foaming at the mouth and his eyes were wide and glaring. He started pacing room to room shouting and swearing and really scaring me and ds who is almost 2. I told him to calm down but he wouldn't listen.

After a while he did calm down and I asked him why he exploded like that and he said that it was the shops fault for bringing the wrong food and it wound him up. He apologised to ds for shouting and 10 minutes later was playing with him like nothing happened.

Ive been constantly living on edge since these rages have started as they come from nowhere and I can't predict them. I don't want to live like this it's not fair on any of us.

Having someone in your life who rages would make anyone nervous. Please don’t feel the behaviour you describe is how most people are

If one of his medications is Levetiracetam (Keppra) then this could be causing his outbursts. It is a documented side effect. If so, the doctor needs to look if it needs swapping for another.

You are not making it worse. Your partner is having rages that scare you. Rages that seem out of the ordinary for him. It could e a lot of things. The only way to know is if he goes to the doctor and is honest. A call from you to say that these rages have started recently and that you are scared of him and that you have a young child should help. Or ask him can you go to the doctor with you.

If you can film him safely I would do so.

My dad used to have rages and it was horrible growing up. You never knew what would set him off. The atmosphere in the house was so tense so much of the time. He has definitely mellowed with age but still has a tendency to get angry at times. Retiring helped as his job was stressful. Also we think unresolved grief played a part. It you can’t wait around indefinitely waiting for the next rage. He needs to be willing to try to figure it out. What’s causing it. And how he can best control it.

I’m not a nervous person generally but I have been around someone in a rage and was absolutely terrified. So you are not blowing this out of proportion. I’m an adult and can’t even begin to imagine what sense a small child could make of this. The child’s world must feel very confusing and unsafe during a rage. I’m sure we all get angry and frustrated and even grief stricken at times in life. However so,etching is very wrong wi5 any adult who rages and terrifies those he professes to love

So many people ready to diagnose him and tell the OP to get him to the doctor or whatever.

I just want to remind everyone:

2-3 women EVERY WEEK are killed by their male partners
Many more are beaten

The focus here should be on OP and her child’s safety, everything else comes second.

YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE TO LIVE IN FEAR OP.

People are making suggestions in order to find a way to reduce the problem for the OP. If swapping medications proves the quickest way to stop the rages, then yes, a trip to the doctor is a good idea.

These rages haven't come from nothing, something is behind them. But no-one wants the OP at risk.

OP, if you really feel there is an immediate threat or danger to you and the DC, call the police. Regardless of whether you think meds, or a change in his MH, or he's being a cunt is behind it. If you are frightened for your safety, the police can get him out.

How are you doing OP?
Has he been to the doctor about his meds?