Dp sudden rages ruining our lives

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My dp can be a very loving,caring person but recently he's started going into sudden anger rages for little or no reason.

An example was last week the wrong cat food was delivered so he was fine about it to the delivery driver, accepted the food, then when the cat didn't want to eat it he started shouting and raging how f*cking Sainsbury's cant even deliver the right food. He was literally foaming at the mouth and his eyes were wide and glaring. He started pacing room to room shouting and swearing and really scaring me and ds who is almost 2. I told him to calm down but he wouldn't listen.

After a while he did calm down and I asked him why he exploded like that and he said that it was the shops fault for bringing the wrong food and it wound him up. He apologised to ds for shouting and 10 minutes later was playing with him like nothing happened.

Ive been constantly living on edge since these rages have started as they come from nowhere and I can't predict them. I don't want to live like this it's not fair on any of us.

You say he needs no moee medication. Has he come off medication recently. His meds could have been calming this side of him and now without them you are experiencing the full impact. Definitely doctor and you with him..for starters.

He's still taking some meds. Yes only like this with me I think

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He’s either ill, on drugs or he’s an abusive arse.

He needs to see the doctor ASAP.
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I'm bipolar, and unfortunately I get like this. It's also a sign of depression. But it could be many things. Including drugs, like with my ex who also had these "fits" (using cocaine)

Does he ever target you or your DS, or just random stuff like cat food?

Ultimately you may need to just leave. Whatever his issues, medical or not, if you are being made to feel unsafe nothing excuses that. Don't hang in there to try and help him if he is frightening you - or if he has no interest in finding out why this is happening and trying to fix it. If he considers himself to be a good partner and father he owes it to his family to get on top of this behaviour. Speak to him when he's calm. offer to see the doctor with him.

Does he recognise it's a problem and not acceptable to deal with his frustrations like this. There is a thread about abusive behaviour traits on here so you could look it up and see if he has any others. You see - if it was an illness or some condition it would happen around him or with other people. You need to tell him it's not acceptable and it needs to stop. He will be damaging his child screaming at him and bye the way - did he apologise to YOU.
He maybe very stressed but he needs to manage it better.
Look after yourself.

Could he keep a food diary? He may have a sensitivity to amines (long shot but it does happen)
fedup.com.au/factsheets/additive-and-natural-chemical-factsheets/amines
Scroll down to enzymes.

I have rages once a month. Then I get my period. Does this not happen to other people?

Could he just be really stressed about something?
Have you chatted it through with him when he's calm?

I have talked with him about it and he doesn't understand how I can be scared of him.

There's another thread running like this. The overwhelming advice is the OP needs to leave her husband until he's had treatment for his rages, and I advice you OP to do the same.

You and your child are not safe around him, regardless of the cause.

This is the other thread

*advise you not advice you.

Meant to add, especially as he's minimising his behaviour by saying he doesn't understand how you can be scared of him.

Contact Women's Aid for help.

I would be terrified if I lived with someone like this - imagine how a two year old feels. I'd do whatever it took to get away from him until he got treatment.

Thank you for the link to the other thread. I will take a look.

What medication does he take?

2 antipsychotics

Is he prescribed the anti psychotic medication for Borderline Personality Disorder? I think if so this will explain the rages. It may well be that he is not taking his medication regularly. It sounds like he needs a doctor to look at things again

No he doesn't have borderline personality disorder as far as I know and he takes his tablets same day every day. I'm calling the dr today to try and have a talk with them.

So why is he prescribed two anti psychotic drugs? Do you know what his mental health diagnosis is? ( Don't mean you to write it here just wondering of you know)

OP, does your DH have any other new or existing peculiarities like eg tics?

The obvious explanation is possible side effects from the anti-psychotics which you should report straight away to the doctor.

I know what his diagnosis is. He takes the second one to counteract some of the side affects of his original medication.

Solo I did at first think that but he's mentioned that to the dr who doesn't think that would be the case. I will say it again to my dr if I get to talk to them today.

Only no not that I'm aware of

I’m not a doctor of course, but their is a link between tics disorder and sudden fits of rage, which is kind of like a brain tic. Most will have ADHD as well.

When you speak to the doctor, make sure they understand that you're worried about your own safety.

I do wonder if I make the situation worse in my head as I'm quite a nervous person so not sure if I make things seem worse than they are