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Does it count as cheating if it's with a celebrity?

407 replies

falsesmile · 18/06/2018 21:04

My friend (female) kissed one of her childhood hearthrobs at the weekend. We were down in London and ended up in a club he was in. Anyway she got the nerve to talk to him and we ended up sitting with his group and she ended up all over him in the booth. No sex, but a lot of kissing and wandering hands.

She told her husband when we got home!! He doesn't mind (or so he says). The guy was on her list of people she's allowed to sleep with, she had posters of him on her bedroom walls and he's in his late 40's/early 50's now? Anyway her and her husband both agree it doesn't count as cheating if it's someone on the list or someone famous. WTF? I don't know if she'd slept with him if he'd be bothered even? They've been together 20 years, married 15 and neither of them have ever cheated before. Both just carrying on, I'm in shock she told him so freely and he doesn't mind!!

OP posts:
halfwitpicker · 18/06/2018 21:33

I'd let his hands wander I reckon

TakeawayTakeMeAway · 18/06/2018 21:34

I doubt my friend was on his list!!

But seriously, get this taken down before it hurts someone. You’ve given too much information, this is how hurtful rumours start.

bobstersmum · 18/06/2018 21:36

If he's married it doesn't matter that he was on her list, he's off limits so she was a cheeky skank.

Monday55 · 18/06/2018 21:37

This was pre-agreed so it's not cheating as the husband gave the go ahead in advance.

CourtneyLovely · 18/06/2018 21:37

Surely we have The List in the sure and certain knowledge that it ain't actually going to happen? Cheating is cheating imo but if she and her DH are happy with it then who are we to judge someone else's relationship?

PS my money is on Jason Donavon too...

LemonysSnicket · 18/06/2018 21:39

If they agree then all is well.

somuchunanswered · 18/06/2018 21:39

I’m surprised she’s not pissed off at you posting about it. She obviously doesn’t give a shit that he’s married, whether she knew before or not.

scarbados · 18/06/2018 21:39

We have Lists - both of us - but they're there in the certainty that we'll never get the chance to put them into practice. In theory, it's not cheating if they're on the List but in practice ... not so certain!

DarkDarkNight · 18/06/2018 21:40

Raisedbyguineapigs My mind went straight to Jason Donovan too.

Shockers · 18/06/2018 21:41

Why Jason Donovan?

Dahlietta · 18/06/2018 21:41

Of course it's cheating. I'm not the best person to ask though because I think having a 'List' is really distasteful.

ShowerGel9 · 18/06/2018 21:41

Shock no. Just no.

iklboo · 18/06/2018 21:42

If they agree then all is well.

Not sure celeb's wife would agree.

rollingonariver · 18/06/2018 21:42

My partner and I both have a 'list', doubt we'd actually follow through. I couldn't be mad if he actually did though!

ComtesseDeSpair · 18/06/2018 21:43

"Cheating" surely is something you know your partner would be upset about you doing and which you would conceal from them. If your friend effectively had her husband's permission to kiss a celebrity (and was comfortable enough to tell him after) then it's not cheating, it's just non-monogamy.

KaliforniaDreamz · 18/06/2018 21:44

i reckon it's JD he's doing the Butlins rounds. Were you actually at Butlins?

letsallhaveanap · 18/06/2018 21:45

Id be impressed if my husband made out with a childhood crush celebrity! No I wouldnt consider it 'cheating' and dont in this OP because clearly both partners are fine with it... so thats up to them isnt it!

But yeah I wouldnt think well of my husband if he made out with someone who he knew to be married and not in an open relationship... Id be more pissed off about him doing that to be honest

KaliforniaDreamz · 18/06/2018 21:45

halfwit Grin

Gazelda · 18/06/2018 21:46

It's cheating.
And worse as she knew he is married too.
No excuse.

Aridane · 18/06/2018 21:52

This is an old episode of Friends!

Tillytrotter123 · 18/06/2018 21:53

If it was David Boreanaz she is excused.

Agreed!

BadTasteFlump · 18/06/2018 21:58

Well, I suppose if her DH doesn't see it as cheating, then it's not (in her case). But snogging & groping in a booth when you're both married? Grim.

DH and I both have a 'free pass for a snog' celeb - but as they happen to be Hollywood A Listers, we're not likely to bump into them down our local nightclub.... but if we did it would literally just be a kiss - a quick one on the lips, but no snogging and groping because that is cheating in my mind.

LilQueenie · 18/06/2018 21:59

its cheating. famous of not they are still like everyone else. hope your friends are pleased with themselves. He is married ffs.

CoolCarrie · 18/06/2018 21:59

Dh has given me a pass on Keanu Reeves! But i doubt I would, and very much doubt he would look my way anyway!

IsMyUserNameRubbish · 18/06/2018 22:00

She said "no" now there's a surprise. If he's doing the rounds on gameshows he's probably a failed entertainer or some cheesy comedian, in that case can't blame her for not wanting it disclosed, , hardly something you'd brag about hey.