I have been reading through posts on here for a little while now and have only just plucked up the courage to post.
So, I have been with my partner for 9 years, he has always had his issues and alot of that has been related to drinking over the years. We have had some ups and downs and always managed to sort everything out, until recently.
Now, I literally can't judge how he will react to anything. The smallest thing could set him off and it would be my fault (whatever it is). He goes from being a 'regular' partner to having these mood swings. The pattern is just so irregular I don't really know what I can do to make the situation any better when he is annoyed.
Yesterday, I wanted him to enjoy father's Day with the kids. He can be very childish and selfish at times and this seemed like one of those occasions. He had asked for a specific gift but I hadn't had a chance to get it in the week (work has been really busy). He was annoyed that I hadn't ordered it but I tried to make the best out of the situation and went out to buy it with the kids as a suprise. He woke up on father's Day and the kids gave him the presents, he just looked disgusted at me and said 'you don't ever f*ING listen to me do you', I told you what I wanted and you got this. He then went on to say it was all wrong, just seeing the kids little faces while he told them it wasn't the right thing was hearbreaking. They were so excited. The day then continued with him sulking and being snappy. I asked him to stop as he was being horrible and ruining the day - he just walked off. When he did come back, he said I shouldn't of said this to him and I just don't understand because I don't work nights.
He will often make me late for work and won't get out of bed, so I end up working later. The other evening I came home late and he just wouldn't let me in, he took my phone and all my keys and pushed me back outside. He then continued to shout at me through the window.
He says he's being like this as he thinks I'm cheating so when he is tired this is just a normal reaction. I am apparently being dramatic because I'm questioning why he is acting like this?
Then back to this morning, he's been asking if I am ok, do I need help etc. He says that I am being irrational as I don't show him enough attention and that if I did then thing would get back on track.
Thank for reading, sorry about the post. I am just feeling pretty down about things at the moment. If anyone has any advice it would be much appreciated x