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Whatsapp. Is it OK for...

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dramabeanqueen · 15/06/2018 17:57

Is it ok for my partner and his workmates to send each other porn vids/vids of other females on Whatsapp?

I don't use Whatsapp. But I am finding the sharing between workmates thing a bit weird. And creepy. Especially as the 3 of them are all supposedly attached and with kids?

I noticed that one of my partner's responses to a group of sent videos was 'bloody lovely' ......

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AnyFucker · 15/06/2018 17:57

Is it ok with you ?

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dramabeanqueen · 15/06/2018 17:59

I just find it a bit nauseating. But don't know if it's just yet another thing that's going bad in our relationship. (My most recent post was the masturbating in a sock one).

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tissuesosoft · 15/06/2018 18:02

Are they sharing videos of women they have had sex with? As well as porn videos?

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dramabeanqueen · 15/06/2018 18:04

I have no idea. I would hope not. Although I have no clue of the source of the vids. I don't know anything about Whatsapp.

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Grasslands · 15/06/2018 18:04

Porn is not okay in my house or family.

PretABoire · 15/06/2018 18:06

Whatsapp is just a messaging app, like fb messenger but you sign up with your phone number. It does not supply porn and isn’t known for it!!!

I’d find that disgusting and would be concerned if my partner didn’t

LetMeGo66 · 15/06/2018 18:08

I wouldn’t like this either. It’s a bit weird.

DearMrDilkington · 15/06/2018 18:09

Are they 12?

PinkHeart5914 · 15/06/2018 18:09

Only if your with someone that has no class....

WhatsApp is just a good message app that you can send text, photos, video over WiFi or date connection for free. You download it from the App Store and sign up with your mobile number, then you can see any of your contacts that use it and talk to them

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dramabeanqueen · 15/06/2018 18:10

I am sitting here not knowig whether to cry or just go to the gym. I feel so depressed about it and a lot of other current relationship issues. We are going on holiday with our two small kids next week.

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dramabeanqueen · 15/06/2018 18:12

Thanks PinkHeart for info.

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AnyFucker · 15/06/2018 18:15

I would say your partner and his mates sound like juvenile fuckwits with absolutely no class or respect for women

Ask him how he would feel if a child of his was involved

Moononthehill28 · 15/06/2018 18:18

Horrible and I wouldn’t tolerate it. They sound immature and unpleasant.

category12 · 15/06/2018 18:21

He's thoroughly grim, isn't he? Wank socks and a porn club with work mates. Confused

Mumao · 15/06/2018 18:44

Omg do we have (or should I say had) the same partner!?

I just broke up with mine. He does this sort of thing and masurbates into his own tshirts!! vomit I have told him to move out for these and many other reasons.

It’s immiture and I for one do not wish to be in a relationship with someone who acts like a 16 year old.

Indiemum88 · 15/06/2018 18:54

I would say this goes on in every single male group chat. There's always one arsehole who finds filth and fires it into a group chat.

FuckPants · 15/06/2018 18:58

He sounds like an arsehole.

Queenofthedrivensnow · 15/06/2018 19:13

Sounds horrible and creepy

Annabelle4 · 15/06/2018 19:18

If it's not ok with you, it's not ok.

How do you know this is going on? Do you check his phone, or did he tell you?

TornFromTheInside · 15/06/2018 19:39

No it's not ok.

Firstly, pornography is rarely, if ever, a healthy industry.
Secondly, why do grown men, even if they sometimes resort to pornography for personal pleasure, need to share it?
Thirdly, when they grow a pair of ball big enough to say 'no, count me out'?

I don't have a 100% negative view of pornography, but on your phone? shared? really? the very definition of wankers.

DownstairsMixUp · 15/06/2018 19:43

He sounds vile. Does he make you happy in any other ways at all? If so, is it really worth it ? As it sounds as if he doesn't respect you or any woman for that matter. His friends sound like fuckwits to.

TwilightSparklePants · 15/06/2018 19:45

My husband does this on fb messenger with mates and workmates, doesn't really bother me

LemonSqueezy0 · 15/06/2018 19:45

"Vids of other females"

This Is the bit that would concern me most. If they are sharing videos of women they've had sex with, they could get into legal trouble if found out.

And if that's the case, I hope they do get found out. Hmm

WickedLazy · 15/06/2018 19:55

Eugh, I would find this a total turn off tbh. I'm with you, it's creepy. Sexist and misogynistic memes and jokes etc, are bad enough, never mind bloody porn. It's the thought of them all sat chatting to each other, hands on cocks or with raging hard ons, at the same time, over the same subject material. "What are you doing up there", "having a casual wank with the lads, be down in a minute". So far removed from what women think of as sexy, or how we want to be thought of by the men who say they love us. I know zero women who would masterbate as a group like this, then discuss it after. Male group wanking and sharing of wank material, really is "a thing".

TornFromTheInside · 15/06/2018 19:58

My husband does this on fb messenger with mates and workmates, doesnt really bother me

But why? he's a grown man isn't he?
I know he's hardly alone, it's commonplace, but I've just started speaking up amongst men and asking 'why would I need to see that, I'm grown up?'
Every bloke I know that shares this sort of stuff is (in my opinion) just a tad pathetic.

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