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End of the line?...

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Elephantjuice85 · 07/06/2018 21:15

Some of you may have saw my post yesterday before I got it removed...
If my OH goes on holiday for 2 weeks with his family for our babys first Christmas would you call it a day? I have expressed why I would like a traditional one at home but he just seems interested in this holiday. Not sure if he has booked it yet but did say he's going to and I'm now being given the silent treatment 😑

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Evigglad46 · 07/06/2018 21:20

End of the line for sure. If i was Going to be alone with baby on any christmas because he wants his mummy and his holiday, i would rather be single.

SingleDingle · 07/06/2018 21:22

Yes.

Have you had the baby yet? Are you invited on the holiday? How come you don’t know if it’s booked yet? Do you just mean you don’t know if he’s booked it since you spoke about it yesterday.

LetMeGo66 · 07/06/2018 21:25

It would be the end of the line for me.

Christmas is about family, how could he leave you and his baby on Christmas alone? Sounds very self centred

kissthealderman · 07/06/2018 21:26

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Elephantjuice85 · 07/06/2018 21:47

Yes I am invited but I don't want to go. He tried to tell me yesterday this is what's happening with no discussion. I'm not sure if he's booked it as we've not spoke since.
Our baby is 3 months

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Elephantjuice85 · 07/06/2018 21:49

OH and I said that about family and he said they are his family! Think he forgets he has his own family now

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Aprilshouldhavebeenmyname · 07/06/2018 21:51

Ltb.
He has told you loud and clear you +dc are not his priority.
Who the fuck would hang around being second?

LizB62A · 07/06/2018 21:51

I'd be making it crystal clear to him that he's not taking your baby with him (just in case that's what he thinks is going to happen)

SingleDingle · 07/06/2018 21:55

Yes, they are his family, so no doubt he has had numerous christmases and holidays with them.

If he doesn’t give a shit about this Christmas, it’s likely he’s going to care even less about any others.

AnneLovesGilbert · 07/06/2018 21:55

He’s being outrageous. It would be a deal breaker for me.

SingleDingle · 07/06/2018 21:56

Do you live together?

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Elephantjuice85 · 07/06/2018 21:57

Feel like I keep taking crap now. This time last year I'd of told him where to go. I can't bare the thought of sharing our baby. He won't be allowed to take the baby abroad without my consent

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Elephantjuice85 · 07/06/2018 21:58

He lives with his mum

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SingleDingle · 07/06/2018 22:00

Figures. What about you and your baby? Just the two of you? How long have you two been together?

missmouse101 · 07/06/2018 22:00

Ffs, Christmas is one bloody day and a baby will not know, care or remember anything about it. I agree it's weird of him to want to go and most fathers would want to be around, but to end a whole relationship?? Extreme reaction.

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Elephantjuice85 · 07/06/2018 22:07

We've been together 3 years.
Christmas is one day Yes, the holiday is for 2 weeks. The baby may not remember but I most definitely will. I couldn't stand the thought of leaving my baby for that long and on Christmas too

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rollingonariver · 07/06/2018 22:08

He's trying to tell you you're not his priority. Listen.

SingleDingle · 07/06/2018 22:15

Why don’t you live together?

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Elephantjuice85 · 07/06/2018 22:51

We had a stupid argument a couple of months ago and he went back to his mum's, he's stayed there since

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Clubcuts · 08/06/2018 08:57

Honestly, I think it is end of line. Not because of just the holiday but the fact he hasn't returned gone after a stupid argument.

His mother is not helping, to be honest if that was my son unless the marriage was completely over and 100% not going back, I'd be telling him to go home to his partner and baby.

Sorry op, I think you need to end it. Thanks

SingleDingle · 08/06/2018 09:00

Personally, I wouldn’t see a future here at all. You don’t live together after 3 years and a baby, he is happy to leave you and your baby for two weeks over Christmas, and he hasn’t spoken to you since the day before yesterday, even to ask about the baby?

I assume from your username you’re about 32/33? Is he the same? Because he sounds pretty immature.

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Elephantjuice85 · 08/06/2018 09:55

I thought he should be chased home too. I'm hoping they are against him going on the holiday without us, surely nobody would encourage that! Yeah not spoke a word to him since Wednesday. Thought he'd of came over last night tbh.
I know I'm being stupid putting up with this. The thought of splitting up and having to share our baby breaks my heart

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ShatnersWig · 08/06/2018 09:55

I think we pretty much all said this on the other thread and we're unlikely to change our minds. You're already at the end of the line without Christmas happening. It's over. Pull the plug and move on.

AdaArdor · 08/06/2018 09:58

End of the line. Not just because it's Christmas and he is happy to leave his family, but because he actively refuses to listen to your thoughts and compromise. That isn't love.

He sounds like an absolute man-child. His mum enables him, like PP said, how is she not tell him to grow the fuck up and go home to his wife and child.

You are worth so much more!

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Elephantjuice85 · 08/06/2018 11:14

I know you did all say this on previous thread, I just have nobody else to speak to about this and keep going over and over things thinking am I wrong... but I know deep down you're all right.

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