Hi, I found a Viber chat message on my wife's phone recently saying "love you too, sleep well". I confronted my wife about it and at first she didn't come clean but eventually when I kept asking she owned up. I discovered that she had being seeing an ex-work colleague for the last 3 years and 5 months. The relationship started at a time when my wife's mother was diagnosed with cancer. Our family (we have 2 young boys) had also recently moved to be closer to her parents so there was a lot of 'change' in our lives at the time. I was busy looking after the kids whilst my wife was dealing with her mums situation. On reflection at the time the affair started I wasn't emotionally suppose to my wife.
According to my wife they never had sex but had been intermate with each other and shared a bed/room together. They saw each other on a regular basis. My wife has now ended the relationship and it's been about 4 weeks since I found out. I love my wife so very much and I don't want our relationship to end. My wife also tells me the same thing. My wife told me that she felt a huge relief when I found out. Since I discovered the affair we have been getting on great and the sex has been amazing. My wife has thrown my emotions into chaos! I feel really low, my confidence has taken a huge bartering. I love her so very much but worry about her not being able to stop the relationship despite her reassuring me. I haven't asked a huge amount of details about the relationship because I feel sick when I think about it. I've never experienced thus before and don't know how to deal with it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance.