Are you still affectionate after a long time together?

[Lorddenning1]

Just interested in what other people do, been with OH for 9 years and there is no romance anymore, maybe get a kiss, not had a snog in ages.
do you still hold hands etc?
We have 2 kids DS 7 and DS , just for context.

DS 7 and DS 1

Been together 8 years. Still hold hands when walking, cuddle and kiss, snuggle on sofa together, spoon before sleeping etc
We are a very tactile couple anyway, couldn’t imagine having no physical contact
If you want a kiss or cuddle why not just go in for one? Or does it not bother you?

We've been together 21 years with three DC and we still hug, kiss, hold hands etc - usually initiated by me, but happily (I hope!) accepted by him.

Have you heard of the five languages of love? Touch is one of mine, and maybe yours too, but if it's not his then he may be showing his love in other ways. It's worth a look IMO to explain some of the different ways people behave in relationships.

12 years and still very much so.

We've been together 20 years married for almost 16. Still kiss and cuddle (ds 9 is not impressed by this) hold hands when walking. Kiss hello and goodbye etc we would both be worried something was up of we didn't it's part of our lives

28 years together.
Still snuggle on the settee, kiss before leaving each other. ( eg going to work, leaving the house, we do the same with adult kids)
Still have ' in jokes' that the kids rol their eyes at!
We have jokey names for each other that makes us laugh.
Lots of day to day affection.

14 years and still very affectionate. Mostly initiated by dh!

15 years and yes, hold hands, kiss, cuddle, touch eachother as stood at kitchen sink etc.

Yes, together 28 years, married for 23, still very affectionate!

Married 9 years, together 16. No physical contact. Haven't held hands in years, can't remember last time. Don't touch each other in anyway. If both in hall one will move to another room so we don't have to squeeze past and touch each other. A while back oh put his hand on my shoulder while I was in computer and I could feel his touch there ages after he'd left, and not in a good way. He kisses (peck) me goodnight once in a blue moon but we never properly passionately kiss. It's been so long now the thought of it is not appealing.

Been together 30 years, married 26. Lots of cuddling, handholding, kissing hello/goodbye, just touching in general really....

I don't know how you do it.
Maybe you are really secure in yourself but when my ex stopped being affectionate I ended it pretty swiftly.

Love holding hands and all that. Without it I am not in the mood to have sex. Foreplay begins from the moment you meet each other.
But people forget ...

Do you initiate?

One thing that makes me laugh with DP is if we are sat next to each other on the settee in silence, maybe reading or watching tv suddenly I will get an elbow nudges into my ribs gently. I'll pretend to ignore it but then DP will poke me ( gently) on the elbow and then my leg to get a reaction from me! It's just messing about and it's funny to us. I try to pretend I haven't noticed ( how can you not notice someone tickling your ribs) but it's part of our silliness! I eventually flip and start poking back!! Before anyone says oh that's annoying, it's not all the time and it makes us laugh. All the small things eh?

11 years together and we're as sappy as when we first met - I don't think our relationship would work without hand holding, kissing, spooning and lots of affection

He would be affectionate 24/7 if I let him but I bloody hate it. It's no reflection on his attractiveness or my feelings towards him - I've just never been a touchy feely person. In a standard single day we'd have a couple cuddles, quick kisses bye/hi, and I hold his arm or hand when we're out. That's plenty for me. He'd quite like to be glued to me.

We're 18 years together, 2 DC.

Together 20yrs

• always kiss goodnight
• always kiss goodbye in the mornings/if one of us is going out of the house
• sometimes snuggle on sofa (usually if we have a child free night and watching a movie)
• occasionally hold hands
• I kiss DH on top of his bald head as I walk past him when he's sat on the sofa
• if I'm in the kitchen when DH comes I'm from work he'll come in and "cop a feel"

We've been married 35 years, 5 (mostly adult) kids and we still gross out our kids with spontaneous public displays of affection - kissing in the kitchen is something of a habit for us. We find it hard to sleep if we are not touching - even in the hottest weather we will hold hands at least. The kids say we're sad but it makes us happy :-)

Our silver wedding is next month and we've been together almost 33 years. Still hold hands, snog on the sofa, kiss each other before we go to work every morning, etc. We're a pretty tactile family really and the kids don't mind us holding hands as they've grown up with it. No full on snogging in front of them though 😂

Been together 17 years and married 13.5years with 3 dds. Still hold hands and cuddle lots.

18 and half years here and I'm 38 weeks pregnant so definitely affection going on. He's probably more affectionate than I am, i.e. instigating holding hands, cuddling etc in public but I love that hour or so before sleep when we're in bed talking and snuggling.

We've been together for 11 years - can't remember the last time we had a proper kiss. He's always too tired for anything remotely affectionate! Peck hello and goodbye every day and say I love you, but haven't had sex for months!

5.5 years and have some form of sexual contact daily,snuggle on sofa every night etc

Been together 26 years and married for 21 . We're very affectionate. Kissing in the kitchen, holding hands While out, spooning in bed, foot rubs on the sofa etc
Couldn't live without it tbh

34 years and still extremely affectionate on both sides.

31 years. 3 grownup children. Still kiss when leaving and arriving, say i love u. Hold hands when out walking. Hug when in kitchen cooking. He rubs my back every night as we go to sleep, i cannot sleep unless we are touching.