Are you still affectionate after a long time together?

[Lorddenning1]

Just interested in what other people do, been with OH for 9 years and there is no romance anymore, maybe get a kiss, not had a snog in ages.
do you still hold hands etc?
We have 2 kids DS 7 and DS , just for context.

35 years married, 37 years together. Both in our 60s . Hold hands when out, snog, cuddle on sofa, pat each other on the back, rub sore bits, we don't sleep in same room but still have shared bed times. Despite huge stress from adult dd with autism which makes our lives v hard, we make time for each other and cuddle, even if sex doesn't happen that often now. It's called being in love.

42 years married, 4 grown up sons and we still hold hands, kiss at the usual intervals (on waking, going to bed, going out alone, returning home and sometimes just because one of us feels like it), cuddle on the settee etc. Our respective parents were the same so I guess we just expected to continue showing affection as a normal everyday thing.

Married 9 years, together 16. No physical contact. Haven't held hands in years, can't remember last time. Don't touch each other in anyway. If both in hall one will move to another room so we don't have to squeeze past and touch each other. A while back oh put his hand on my shoulder while I was in computer and I could feel his touch there ages after he'd left, and not in a good way. He kisses (peck) me goodnight once in a blue moon but we never properly passionately kiss. It's been so long now the thought of it is not appealing.

@falsesmile, that is so terribly sad. Why are you still in the relationship?

Yes, we're still affectionate with each other. We've been together for many years, so it's much more a soft, sweet, close affection day to day.

I honestly think - with a few exceptions - you'll mainly get 'yes, we're affectionate' replies though on your thread, OP, so it might not be a 'true picture' so to speak.

26 years together and still mutually affectionate

Together for 7 years so not as long as most but stil very affectionate - DH is naturally more so.

Interestingly we were out a few weeks ago with some friends of ours, another married couple, who have been together a little over 4 years and they’re is no hand holding, no displays of affection in public and they sleep in separate beds, he gets annoyed if she tries to cuddle up with him on the sofa, all instigated from the husbands side. On the surface she seems much more into him than he into her but we all show our affections differently.

We don't snog in public but yes we're publicly and privately affectionate, always cuddling up on the sofa. DH more so than I am. He comes from a far more tactile family than I do. We've been married 22 years.

Together 20 years, still v affectionate. But I am a very touchy feely person. Kids are too.

Years ago DH went to some management seminar that talked about the 1000's, 100's and 10's in your life....the positive events. The 1000 events are the biggies - buying a house, birth of a child, wedding etc.
the 100's are the pretty big ones - promotion, new job, kids getting married, big holiday etc.

the 10;s are the small moments of happiness and are the most important. the person giving the course mentioned that his wife loved having a cup of tea MADE FOR her....and so he made her one every evening...i said i knew exactly how she felt...! DH has made me a cup of tea each evening ever since....(for the last 10 years!)

it's the small things...the hand hold, the hug, the cuppa, etc

Together 20 years, married for 13. dd10 spent yesterday policing us on the beach and making sure we didn't get too cosy. Yeah we are affectionate. He rubs my feet in the evenings on the couch and I rub his back sometimes. Sometimes we have better contact than others. Usually more affectionate for a couple of days after we have sex and then it weans off and if we go too long without having sex we can get a bit distant from each other physically and emotionally.

Been together 30 years, sort of.. we touch hand when walking past each other and quite often wake up holding hands. Neither of us are touchy feely people though. However we show affection in other ways, making nice drinks, cooking favourite meals.

14 years, married 8.

Wouldn't say we're overly affectionate,

Hold hands every time we're out and able to (so if we're not holding kids hands), cuddle most days, kiss goodbye, DH cops a feel whenever he knows I'm in the right mood.

Snuggle if both on the sofa etc. But I couldn't do it for the entire length of a film.

Most nights we'll spoon for a bit. Sex 1-2 times a week, sometimes less, sometimes more.

I do think we need to work more on non-sex intimacy as it's dropped off since having the kids.

Married for over twenty years.

My husband will reach for my hand in public and we will hold hands. It still gives me a real thrill if we at a social function and he asks me to dance.

We kiss, we hug, we cuddle, we kiss good night. We snuggle up on the sofa.

Either he or me will remark, 'I haven't had a kiss for ages' which is code for, 'can I have a kiss'. It's really sweet.

Randomly we will sing to each other, 'you don't know what it's like to love somebody the way I love you.'

(You want I should hashtag the above with so blessed or feeling lucky ? No ? thought not !)