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What would you do? RE 'on a break'

64 replies

bitsnbobsss · 04/06/2018 12:46

Without giving too many details, I want to know this... if your partner said they needed "some time apart to think about things".. but said we'll definitely meet up in a month or so and discuss things.. would you just let him have his space and not contact him at all? It's been nearly 2 weeks for me now and I haven't contacted him, because I want to respect his wish for time apart. Another part of me feels really mad though - if he needed this time why didn't he actually break up with me? It makes me want to end it before he can!

So yeah my question is would you leave them alone for a month or two (providing you don't have children or live together, etc)? Or do they not deserve that amount of time? Helpppp

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lifeisaboutcreatingyourself · 04/06/2018 19:02

Leave him to it and spend the time focusing on yourself

AnyFucker · 04/06/2018 19:03

I think we must be from the same era, melon. And had the same stupid boyfriends.

Justanothernap · 04/06/2018 20:02

Is he perhaps setting things up for you to end the relationship - a possibility if he is shy/awkward (that's the kind interpretation, gutless would be the other!)

Like others have said consider what you want. Then tell him. I wouldn't respect the'break' thing any further - it sounds like it might be making you miserable. It would drive me up the wall!

DilemmaaboutMoney · 04/06/2018 21:10

Pfft. I'd be on Tinder. Fuck him and his deep thinking ways.

DontDrinkDontSmoke · 04/06/2018 21:13

People that love you want to see you.

Fuck that noise. Give him a break forever.

melonscoffer · 04/06/2018 22:10

Yep, anyfucker same stupid boyfriends. Did we learn lessons early on ?

melonscoffer · 04/06/2018 22:13

Thanks for doing the link by the way Smile

AnyFucker · 04/06/2018 22:15

Npt early enough, Mel. Not early enough.

AnyFucker · 04/06/2018 22:17

For future use (should you wish to link youtube videos)

Google youtube + the link you want. Right click the video and the option to copy the link comes up. Then paste into the dialogue box on MN.

Clear as mud ?

melonscoffer · 04/06/2018 22:24

anyfucker Just readyour other post. I got myself a wonderful husband too. Even so, those two songs still give me a surge of power and strength. Esp All Cried Out..

Had a thought that OP. feels the way we would if someone had played 60s music to us when we were 23. She is 23.

melonscoffer · 04/06/2018 22:31

We just have brilliant music advice to offer. So.we're justified. Grin
That's my story. I'm sticking to it..

AnyFucker · 04/06/2018 22:36

Ha !

Underthefur · 04/06/2018 22:36

I have those two songs on my post-separation playlist (along with Elkie Brooks' "No more the fool" and the obvious but unbeatable "I will survive"). They may be old but the lyrics and sentiment are relevant to anyone.
Good luck OP, may you not only survive but thrive x

TheMonkeyMummy · 05/06/2018 12:39

Love Elkie Brooke's!

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