So I have been married for 4 years and have 2 gorgeous children. My husband is, I suspect, on the spectrum.
He needs to be part of every small decision made about our lives but he then needs to think about it for at least two weeks. I sometimes think he does this in the hopes I’ll forget about it.
He properly looses it if I make any decorating decisions without him. It’s just totally wearing me down.
In our living room we had a lovely leather sofa but due to space we had to take the chaise bit off. I covered the bottom with a blanket so it sort of blended in but it drove him nuts so we swapped it for an old cream fabric sofa. Now I don’t need to tell you what two under 5’s have done to the cream sofa! He also had a very shaggy rug which has unidentifiable black sticky stuff in it with the odd raisin, this with an old leather ottoman with one broken leg. He won’t let me get rid of any of it.
I got a new grey, non offensive, rug yesterday for the princely sum of £15. Nothing fantastic but clean and tidy. When he saw it he got so angry shouting how I’d wasted my money (bought with my money) on a cheap rug and that it doesn’t look as expensive as his rug (he’s came from Next) and that I needed to discuss this with him.
There are loads of other things like this.
AIBU to worry that he gets this worked up about house decorations? Do other men care as much?
I know that there are women out there in abusive relationships so this is low key compared to that but I’m slowly getting ground down.
He hates my best friend, slags off my parents.
Just need to get some perspective from you lovely ladies.