Boy says im overweight keeps calling me names

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Hi i been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. It had been a difficult relationship we have had lots of outside pressures and problems there has been lots of arguing on both sides
When we met i had recently lost a bit of weight but was starting to put it back on so i was about 12 stone i am now about 14 stone. When we met i showed him old photos he said some nonsense lile it doesn't matter you're beautiful blah blah blah. Well about a year ago he started saying i had put weight on and asked me nicely to go to the gym. He said i would feel a lot happier about myself and more confident which is true i have been a member of the gym i just dont find time to go. He isn't working and I am supporting the both of us working 40-70 hours a week and i have a 10 year old. Thes3 are a mix of day and night shifts and night shifts are known for making you put weight on.
I know I look better at 12 stone and I would like to be healthier but i am struggling to find time to manage it all. He has gone from gently reminding me to being quite spiteful about it calling me a fat C word. Chubby. Lazy. Today I asked him if he would a favour for me and his instant response was no because you are fat and have a beer belly and won't do things for me like lose weight when i asked you to. I am trying to be a balanced as i can about this I could probably find time for the gym but i am quite depressed a lot of the time i just want to hide at home because money is tight and even £1 for a car park would be too much.

His behaviour isnt right is it?

His behaviour is very wrong.

Still, walk away from him and you might find your depression suddenly improves...

Hes an actual cunt.

He isn't working and I am supporting the both of us working 40-70 hours a week and i have a 10 year old.

Well, tells you all you need to know. Dump that dead weight.

In MN parlance he is known as a cocklodger.

What the hell are you doing?! Giving a great role model to your kid?
NOT

Why isn’t he working? He sounds horrible

I know how you can lose 12ish stone of useless deadweight super quickly and it isn't by going to the gym.

You have bigger issues in your relationship than your weight I'm afraid. Dump him and you'll magically lose 12 stone overnight!

You must consider also what sort of message it is sending to your DD if he comments on your weight in that way.

Why is he not working as well?

You don't need a dickhead like that in your life, OP. Get rid.

You are supporting the both of you and your DD while he isn’t working, and he won’t even do you a favour just because you have put on a bit of weight?!

Money is tight because you are supporting this loser! Kick him out and spend the time you save on yourself and your child. I have a 10 year old. He is very astute. He would easily pick up on language like that being used against me like that. It would distress him enormously.

Oh OP this is not on. Bin the C*.

Good God, why are you with him? An unemployed bully? Hardly a catch himself is he? Dump him and I bet you will immediately feel better about yourself.

Yep. Quick way to lose 12 stone of useless dead weight.

Dump him

Prioritise your 10 yo and your self esteem. Ditch the bf he sounds very negative, borderline abusive and lazy.

Another vote for losing 12 stone by dumping the cocklodger!

No his behaviour is not right. Nowhere near right.

I wouldn't say what he said to you to someone I wasn't keen on, I wouldn't say that to someone who got on my tits, it's just too rude/ mean.

I might say it about someone I hated, but probably not to their face, I'd feel guilty. Even if I hated them I wouldn't really think of mentioning their weight in an insult, unless it would upset them.

I left a boyfriend of 4 years who made comments like this (but milder) there was other reasons to split too (different futures planned) I was gutted, I loved him, but surprisingly (to me) after a month or so I started to feel a lot better, like I did before I met him.

Another vote to dump him here.

OP you can solve this problem by saying just two words:

"Leave. Now."

So he sits on his arse while you work all day and night to keep a roof over your heads and he has the barefaced cheek to call you lazy?!

Tell the lazy fucker to get gone, he’s taking the piss.

Another vote for ending the realationship. I wouldn't put up with it. I've put 5 stone on in 2 years after having kids and my partner would never say those things to me. Ever.

There is nothing wrong with you, he's a bullying twat. Leave him and regain your self respect. It's a very unhealthy situation for your son too. Xxx

Gosh, get rid. No it's not right. In fact it's very wrong. I can't believe you're also financially supporting this piece of shit.

What will happen when you tell him is over? How will he react?

Jesus, sounds like a catch.

Get bloody rid and you'll feel a lot lighter, without even stepping foot in the gym.

You’ve put on 2 stone. The freeloader sounds like a lot more dead weight than that as pp have pointed out. Love yourself and your dd. Kick this loser out.

Jesus wept, if you are actually serious, then lose 13 stone overnight.

Show your DD this is not acceptable.