Fuck fuck fuck - just seen my ex

[MrsJacksonBrodieTheSecond]

Dh and I are going through a rough patch and have been for about a year. Two young dc, house move, promotion for him which meant I had to give up my career all causing resentment and lack of communication.

I was with my ex for 7 years from 15-22. We had a still born little girl and then both cheated rather than deal with our grief properly. Our break up just broke me completely and I haven’t seen or heard from him in 12 years. Then today I saw him in the supermarket. He asked me to go and have a coffee with him and I did. We had a chat, he’s married, successful, gorgeous kids. Then I came home, we didn’t swap numbers or say exactly where we lived or anything.

And now I’m at home and I’m just sobbing my heart out. My life is so far from where I hoped it would be and I’m so unhappy. I don’t know why it took randomly bumping into my ex to make me realise this. I’m not going to attempt and affair with ex or anything like that. I’m just really sad.

"Do you think your current DH is possibly a bit of a twat? I accidentally (married?) a twat and they can really strip you of everything that makes you happy. Slowly but surely and completely."

This made me laugh too! It's so true and I'm also in that situation - except I married my childhood sweetheart! What a mistake that was.

For a long time I had to stop looking at Facebook, because I'd look up people I knew from uni and become properly depressed. It's not even that I was that happy then, just that life seemed to have possibilities and freedoms and now it feels that its over for me. All I seem to do nowadays is worry about my kids and try to ensure their happiness (which i suspect I do a rubbish job at).

Op - If you're not working during the day, is there scope for pursuing an interest, or volunteering or something, during that time? It doesn't solve all your problems I know, and you probably have a million other things you 'need to do, but it may make you feel you have a bit of yourself back?