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Messaging another women to?

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notanotherbadone · 31/05/2018 20:59

Hi everyone,

Just a quick question have been dating a guy for a month going really well until....

He said he was eating out somewhere, I said I love that place and his reply was

“You and me would get along great”

It’s the would that’s thrown me. What do you all think? Did he think he was messaging someone else?

He has said he is not in contact with anyone else prior to this.

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notanotherbadone · 31/05/2018 20:59

Two minutes later he followed this text up with

“I miss you”

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Singlenotsingle · 31/05/2018 21:00

Maybe he meant "you and me would have a great time there"?

Gemini69 · 31/05/2018 21:01

yip... I agree OP... he fooked up.. Flowers

Deandre · 31/05/2018 21:03

No it’s just a figure of speech, said any sex to any sex.
-I love gardening Janet
-we’d get on great Susan

I wouldn’t take anything bad from it.

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 31/05/2018 21:05

I'd take it to mean that you would get on well if you lived together/were in a longer term relationship.

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notanotherbadone · 31/05/2018 21:08

I have zero trust in men isn’t that just awful.

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Deandre · 31/05/2018 21:09

No it’s not awful, you have your reasons I’m sure, trust is gained, not just given freely.

paisleyblue · 31/05/2018 21:11

I'm sorry I'm struggling to understand how this equates to him messaging another woman. Unless 'I miss you' was meant for someone else? But maybe it wasn't.

Did you reply to his last text?

paisleyblue · 31/05/2018 21:13

'You and me would get along great' is his way of saying you have things in common e.g. favourite place to eat etc. I'd take that as a compliment

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notanotherbadone · 31/05/2018 21:14

Guess just the “would” get along great seemed as though we haven’t actually met yet. Followed by the I miss you he’s never said that before. Thought he might be trying to hide what he actually just sent.

That’s why I came on here maybe I’m being a crazy women.

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magoria · 31/05/2018 21:17

I think he thought he was replying to a women he has not yet met up with not you because he knows you get on great as you have been dating a month.

paisleyblue · 31/05/2018 21:18

Maybe he misses your company op? Text him back and ask if it was meant for you but put a little laugh emoji at the end or something so it comes across as jokey. That's what I would do anyway.

paisleyblue · 31/05/2018 21:19

@magoria but then why would he follow up with 'I miss you' if it was meant for some random he's not met yet?

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notanotherbadone · 31/05/2018 21:21

@paisleyblue because he thought shit wrong person I’ll hide that error with “miss you”

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notanotherbadone · 31/05/2018 21:22

Just had a bad feeling when I read it. I did respond with those messages meant for me his reponse was “yes for you lol”

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dirtybadger · 31/05/2018 21:23

I see what you mean OP.

And I dont think you are paranoid. I would be a bit confused too....but I dont think its a dead cert.

paisleyblue · 31/05/2018 21:24

Usually in situations like his i would go with your gut instinct op. Can't really advise, apart from text back to try and gain some clarity from it.

Did he text again or have you left it alone?

paisleyblue · 31/05/2018 21:25

Oops just caught your update. Maybe he does miss you OP.

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notanotherbadone · 31/05/2018 22:13

Maybe he does just miss me. Hate dating by text and now with all these online dating sites feel like it so easy to cheat or still be looking. Not seeing him again till Sunday so will have to engage then. Just had a feeling it was off but as many of you have pointed out it might not be.

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unmumsyma · 31/05/2018 22:20

Have you been seeing eachother a lot? Like is it getting serious? Or is it just like a causal situation?

Storm4star · 31/05/2018 22:50

Did you reply to him between the two messages? If not, then yes I think he was texting someone else. My ex screwed up like this a few times and with the benefit of hindsight, I see that the “loving”message was to cover the first error.

esk1mo · 31/05/2018 22:53

sounds like he was being a little sarcastic, it sounds like something id say to my friend

eg friend says they love same song as i do
i’d say “oh we should be friends!” as a joke..

doesnt sound like he was texting another woman

sugarnotsweetener · 31/05/2018 22:59

I think he means it like you and me would get on great in a Relationship

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notanotherbadone · 01/06/2018 00:03

We see each other about three times a week. I didn’t reply invetween messages he sent the “miss you” like two minutes after the first. He is not a sarcastic guy. Wouldn’t say serious but he did say he is NOT talking to anyone else. Gut saids I’m being played unfortunately.

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ThomasShelbysBunnet · 01/06/2018 00:09

I freely admit I'm the suspicious type, but I would have thought exactly the same as you OP.

That doesn't read as something you would say in a conversation to someone you already know.

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