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Today 21:33 Gaypoh
We've been together for 6 months. I'm at a total loss right now. I love him to bits but he has begun to poison my feelings for him.
At the start I knew he had had some past problems with cocaine, but I didn't know the full extent.
Things were great for the first few months. Then he got a job and started staying out later and later. He's been staying with me a lot as was in the process of getting his own place. Lately I only see him on a morning, then he's coming home 10pm obviously off his face.i try talking to him, but he is only really sober mornings I think and then he has to go to work.
Hes started to get scarily paranoid. He thinks I am cheating. I can barely have a conversation with him now unless it's about my none existent cheating. Im at home all day alone mainly yet he still thinks I'm up to no good. He thinks something is up if there's a picture off kilter on the wall, a cupboard left open, if I buy new stuff. I'm always asking him to take me out but he hasn't for ages, just says he needs to work. Yet there's never any money. The other day I went out with my friends to the beach, he said he didn't believe I had gone there and even said the pictures I took there, for his benefit, were old photos. In bed last night he said I tasted of another man! He's also paranoid about the books I read as I like horrors etc, he's been taking my books and throwing them away. He's also now smashed three of my phones.
Do you think it's the drugs or a mental illness? I don't know what to think or do, but I'm feeling controlled and I think it's emotional abuse..I'm starting to act shady around him.but it's because I'm constantly worrying over what he thinks.
He kept ringing last night but I wouldn't answer. I messaged him to say I can't be around him till he gets help. My head just feels so confused at the moment.
Gaypoh
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My boyfriend is being paranoid and abusive...advice please.
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We've been together for 6 months. I'm at a total loss right now. I love him to bits but he has begun to poison my feelings for him.
At the start I knew he had had some past problems with cocaine, but I didn't know the full extent.
Things were great for the first few months. Then he got a job and started staying out later and later. He's been staying with me a lot as was in the process of getting his own place. Lately I only see him on a morning, then he's coming home 10pm obviously off his face.i try talking to him, but he is only really sober mornings I think and then he has to go to work.
Hes started to get scarily paranoid. He thinks I am cheating. I can barely have a conversation with him now unless it's about my none existent cheating. Im at home all day alone mainly yet he still thinks I'm up to no good. He thinks something is up if there's a picture off kilter on the wall, a cupboard left open, if I buy new stuff. I'm always asking him to take me out but he hasn't for ages, just says he needs to work. Yet there's never any money. The other day I went out with my friends to the beach, he said he didn't believe I had gone there and even said the pictures I took there, for his benefit, were old photos. In bed last night he said I tasted of another man! He's also paranoid about the books I read as I like horrors etc, he's been taking my books and throwing them away. He's also now smashed three of my phones.
Do you think it's the drugs or a mental illness? I don't know what to think or do, but I'm feeling controlled and I think it's emotional abuse..I'm starting to act shady around him.but it's because I'm constantly worrying over what he thinks.
He kept ringing last night but I wouldn't answer. I messaged him to say I can't be around him till he gets help. My head just feels so confused at the moment.