Sick of him talking about other women

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My DP is really starting to annoy me. He is regularly going on about how attractive other women are. In the last five days he has told me how attractive he finds colleagues’ wives, people on tv and other people he met at the weekend. This morning I’ve had a monologue about how ‘fit’ a particular actress is.

It’s really starting to annoy me and makes me feel like shit, as he NEVER compliments me.

I am starting to really suffer with my self esteem, which is a problem I didn’t have before this relationship.

I know men will all find other women attractive. I find other men attractive but I don’t go on about how attractive they are to him all the time.

I’ve told him I don’t like it but he says I’m overreacting.

I’d be grateful for your views as to whether I should just try to let this wash over me.

He sounds like an absolute twat. Why are you with him?

You need to leave the room or put in earphones every time he starts, OP. Every single time. Dont get into a debate or argument about it.

You could point out to him that he'll get a reputation as a creep/lech out there if he can't keep his eyes and comments to himself. Tell him you don't want to be bored any longer by his one-track conversation.

He's a 45 year old lech. You don't find that attractive and fanciable, surely? Just leave him.

Onwards and upwards op! Sounds like a total loser. I had an ex like this. He became totally emotionally abusive and I think was unfaithful at every opportunity. Someone that talks about women/views them in this way has zero respect for you or them. Why give any more chances, you've already given him four years!

I had an ex like this. I just did the same back to him and he didn't like it at all.

He was a lech and a womaniser and I dumped him when he started an affair with a woman from work.

I wouldn't want to bother again with a guy like this. Not worth the grief.

Did you speak to him OP

I haven’t spoken to him yet. He came in steaming drunk just now and is in no position to talk to me.

Can you at least have a little bit of fun with this before you dump him? Every time he does it, give him a sympathetic look and say ‘Oh yes, but I heard she only goes for well endowed men’, ‘Yes she’s beautiful, and intelligent too. She’d probably only be interested in an intelligent man’ and so on. Throw in some patronising little pats on the arm for him too

Get rid. Not worth getting upset about

What a prince. you poor thing. Get rid......Who needs it?

Please don’t marry him.

Do it back and guarantee he won't like it.. I know it abit spiteful but hey ho why should he be knocking your self esteem and not care xxx

Gosh doesn't he sound pathetic. If all his friends/colleagues/these women could hear him I'm sure they'd all agree on what a sad and pathetic loser he is.

His comments are zero reflection on you OP. I can 100% guarantee that. He is just a horrid man whose own self esteem is so low he wants to make you feel shit so you never leave him.