Ghosting in longer term “relationships “

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Has anyone had this happen to them and how did you cope?

Post edited by MNHQ

Do you think he cares? By your first post he sounds like a total dickhead.

Do not be treated like this by ANYONE you are worth so very much more, as on the dating threads YOU ARE THE PRIZE!! Which I always remember when dating, if they are keen they will show it, they will chase you, ‘no hot and cold and certainly no ignoring. You’ve had a lucky escape, and it’s so hard when you really like someone to hope they’ll change and want you but they never do and it hurts, believe me I’ve been there and I will never do that again because I won’t let a man make me feel like that, be ruthless and don’t let men use you, believe you are worth the effort and enjoy the single life for a bit. I split with my ex over a year ago, he was a nightmare. Am loving being single and no rush to meet anyone else. Just take your time, enjoy life alone and when that special guy comes into your life and stays it’ll be worth it.

Am sorry this guy was such a tool to you though, but onwards and upwards take care x

He sounds like he’s playing games with you...run a mile. There are nice guys out there, be patient and I hope you find one x

No I can see he only cared when it suited him, someone genuine would give me closure by ending things as adults. He did bloody well to keep up the act for so long but then it was probably easy via daily messages and a once a week visit.

I had something similar with a guy for the same amount of time, who did the same thing. No more contact from your end will help you move on. Three months later I sent a final message just wanting to get closure. To which he replied back to- his response was that he didn't like the feeling of getting attached to people but that we could still be friends. By that point I had realized that I wasn't willing to settle for less than I deserved.

It will be painful but you will heal .