Am I destined to be single forever?

[Cleothelabrador]

Hi all
I'm 40, a single mum, I work full time, DD is 6 and her dad rarely has her (long story)
I don't think I'm unattractive and have a good circle of friends (so must have an ok personality!?) but recently I have been feeling SO lonely.
Most of my friends are age 30-50 & pretty much all are in relationships
I get invited to parties & I'm usually the only single one there. All my work colleagues are attached.
I am feeling burned out and just want some support/a hug at the end of the day sometimes
I'm on two dating sites (not very productive)
Has anyone been where I am & met someone/had a happy ending?
I'm destined to be alone forever!!!!!! Am I ?

I hope not as pretty much same situation as you but 34

Hi, do your friends/colleagues have any single friends they can set you up with?
Other options could be taking on new hobbies or even moving jobs to meet new people?

I'm 40s 2DCs, work 3-4 days a week and dating. It is tough when you want to have an adult partner to share things with and feel burned out. I seem to have the same pattern of meet someone, have limited time so takes ages to get to know that we're not compatible, feel frustrated by it all, then try again.

When I feel frustrated I remind myself that it's not a race. I'm doing my best with DCs, but wish I had more energy and support, but they are ok. I wish I wasn't distracted in work as tired from DCs and house stuff, but again it is ok.

I'm seeing someone at the moment. I try to think that if it doesn't work out I'll try to take positives from meeting someone new. So it's worth trying, but keep on with the other things in your life too.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3238983-Lets-have-a-bit-of-Summer-Lovin-Dating-Thread-133 I'm on this thread lots of useful advice and support

Thanks all
Thanks Chocmallows
Going to take a look at that thread in my lunch break

pisces none of my friends seem to have single friends!
Ohhhhhhh :(

Share your pain. Eight years single, single man but not single parent. Now 44. I have female friends who are in the same age range, not single parents, been single up to 10 years. We've all done the new hobbies, online dating, new jobs, accept every invitation. Nothing. Other friends don't have single friends, never seem to get single people at any hobbies or on the rare occasion you do they are considerably younger or considerably older. We've all pretty much given up now.

I’m in my 40s and also more or less given up. I have two adult children so I just focus on the fact that I’m thankful to have had them, as I have single friends my age who are childless and sad about it.

I think OLD is partly to blame. People see that there are always new singles on there so they end up never committing to anyone. Bring female I can only see it from a female perspective, but it appears to me that men don’t want the “work” of an actual relationship when they see that they can just have a fling and then move on to the next. I don’t want to be someone’s fling, so what can you do? I have tried multiple hobbies, the guys are either the wrong age or already attached. My work has always been predominantly female.

For the past couple of years I have just focused on having a happy and fulfilled single life. All the cliches like “there’s someone for everyone” or the “you find someone when you aren’t looking” are just that, cliches. Sadly not everyone does find that special someone. It took me a long time to accept that. So now I just focus on the good parts of being alone.