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I feel really bad for Meghan, that her ONLY family member at her and Harry's wedding was her mother. :(

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pennylulu · 20/05/2018 23:09

It genuinely made me feel quite sad for her. 100's of people she barely knew at that wedding, a few co-stars, and all of Harry's family. I know they're not perfect, but some of them get on well, and Harry seems to get on well with them all. And they were all there.

But Meghan..... the ONLY family member there was her mother. And she looked quite emotional and a little sad to me. Maybe she was overwhelmed that her daughter was getting married, but she must have felt it, that she was the only member of Meghan's family there. Meghan must have too IMO.........

I know it's probably more common than some people think, but am I alone in thinking having ONE family member at your wedding is incredibly sad?

I don't mean that in a critical or negative way, and I don't mean to be condescending, I genuinely feel a bit sad for Meghan. I mean, I know she is probably going to be OK, and the Royal family seem to be welcoming her, (and she is now part of them,) but she must feel it deep down.

What are peoples opinions on this? And does anyone else have any experience that is similar? (Having hardly anyone from your family at your wedding, like only 1 to 3 family members?) And how did you feel about it?

OP posts:
Touchmybum · 20/05/2018 23:59

I did feel that Doria should have someone there to support her?

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pennylulu · 21/05/2018 00:10

Yeah I felt that Doria looked quite lonely actually. And I did feel for her very much. As I said, I am sure she - and Meghan will be fine, but my heart went out to them. And I know this kind of scenario is more common than some people think.

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DioneTheDiabolist · 21/05/2018 00:18

Did her mother attend alone or did she have friends there?

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pennylulu · 21/05/2018 00:21

As far as I know it was just her. (I could be wrong....maybe someone can clarify.....) Smile

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AmazingPostVoices · 21/05/2018 00:23

Yeah I felt that Doria looked quite lonely actually.

I’m sure she could have had if she’d wanted.

HerMajestysSecret · 21/05/2018 00:27

I just want to know why the hell Oprah Winfrey was there in pride of place at the front when apparently Meghan and Harry have NEVER met her but Doria has been interviewed by her.

And the bloody Clooneys up there with the royal family ahead of the Spencer cousins.

spookytime · 21/05/2018 00:29

I’m sure I read she was staying at a hotel with friends. They probably just weren’t allowed to sit with her in chapel because protocol and security.

I hope we see more of her.

spookytime · 21/05/2018 00:31

HMS we’ll never know exactly what goes on or who is friends with who behind the scenes.

EachandEveryone · 21/05/2018 00:33

Im sure Oprah wouldve been there for her and a story. I like to think she had friends waiting for her in the background.

notangelinajolie · 21/05/2018 00:46

Yes Meghan's mum did look lonely sat there all by herself. But thinking about it - is it possible she had a plus one sat somewhere else? Meghan and her mum look like a close knit little mini family and if it has always just been the two of them then I doubt Doria would be phased by it.

I have a very small family. If any of my DDs got married there would only be 6 of us there.

JessicaJonesJacket · 21/05/2018 00:53

I didn't feel sad for them. Meghan has wider family. She chose not to invite them.
Part of the reason Harry has a close relationship with his aunts, uncles, cousins, etc is that protocol dictates they do invite everyone to every big event. Meghan obviously doesn't subscribe to that view.

reddingtn · 21/05/2018 01:03

I haven't RTFT but if/when that will be me. My DP has a huge extended family and I due to many many issues don't want them there. As a result my dad won't give me away either.

I am well aware of the imbalance and that has stopped him proposing in the past. I hate feeling like a loner or like no one I know wants to pay their respects.

Genderwitched · 21/05/2018 01:10

Meghan had lots of close friends sitting in the choir bit of the chapel, her Mum probably knew them too. I wouldn't want many of my family at my wedding either.

I think that Meghan's mother looked proud and amazed at the wonderful surroundings, like any normal person would. The Royal family are all blase because they have seen it all before and are probably bored. I also think that her natural expression is rather wistful which contributed to people seeming to feel sorry for her. I think it's rather patronising.

RedDwarves · 21/05/2018 02:07

I had my mother, one cousin, her husband and their three children at my wedding.

Agree with others that it's better to have a small number of family members than have the whole tribe who you don't like, who you know will cause dramas, and who you'd rather not see in any situation, let alone at your own wedding.

Wingedharpy · 21/05/2018 02:10

I felt a bit sorry for her too OP until I realised that she had 1 more family member at hers than I did at mine.
It was a very small affair though - mine, not hers obviously.
We had told no-one we were getting married(didn't want any fuss) and had planned to have just the 2 of us and 2 witnesses (friends) but DH lost his nerve the week before and decided he just had to tell his parents (my parents are deceased).
That then led to a conversation and some guilt tripping by FIL resulting in SIL(DH's sister) being invited with her child and a friend and BIL (DH's brother) invited himself.

halfwitpicker · 21/05/2018 02:10

I felt sorry for Doria really. She was so alone Sad couldn't she have had a friend or someone to go with her?

DioneTheDiabolist · 21/05/2018 02:13

There's no way my mum would have attended alone. She would have had someone else she loved close by. Whether I liked it or not.Grin

I hope Megan's mum had the same. Smile

MaitlandGirl · 21/05/2018 05:03

I have a large extended family and when I get married next year it’s likely that the only people from my side of the family will be my sister and her daughter. There will be loads of DPS family there but that’s the risk you take when you emigrate to your partners country.

nNina22 · 21/05/2018 06:00

This was Meghan’s second, some say third, wedding so presumably her mother would have been at them. We don’t know anything about her mother’s life or personality. She seems like a strong woman-she is also divorced, like her daughter. Maybe she has a partner back home. Who knows?

NotARegularPenguin · 21/05/2018 06:28

I have a small family so only a handful of relatives at my wedding. Dh had about 60 relatives as has loads of aunts, uncles, cousins. OF those cousins especially we’ve seen or heard nothing from them in the 17 years since we got married, no xmas cards, nothing. I wonder why we bothered, waste of £25 a head or whatever it was.

Bue · 21/05/2018 06:34

I am assuming Doria must have had friends there supporting her but they were sat elsewhere? Perhaps old family friends who are also special in Meghan's life? It is rather unusual to have only one relative at one's wedding, but then to also have no family friends in attendance, or anyone at all who is "family like" strikes me as utterly bizarre. It's not like money would have been an issue in facilitating attendance.

SaltySeaBird · 21/05/2018 06:38

I think they chose to sit her alone to portray the image they wanted to portray. Of course they could have sat her with a friend or given her a plus one.

mindutopia · 21/05/2018 07:05

My mum was my only family member at my wedding and it was wonderful. I didn’t even think to feel sad about that. My dad died many years before as had grandparents, etc. I only have one half brother (who is 16 years older than me and an arse). I haven’t spoken to him in nearly 20 years. My aunts and uncles I also don’t speak to anymore. Some I was never close to and only ever met a few times. Others I had a falling out with over how cruel they were to my grandparents when they were ill and dying and have never spoken to them since. My mum is the only biological family I have (other than my children now) and while it’s sad all the others are so shit, I have no regrets about not having them around and certainly was grateful they weren’t at my wedding. I’m lucky to have good friends including lots of older friends of my mum’s who have been like aunties to me and my dh has a lovely big family. I suspect it was just how she wanted it so I wouldn’t feel bad for her.

AJPTaylor · 21/05/2018 07:08

I think lots of families are small though. I married v young. So i was lucky to have both siblings, 2 grandparents and both parents. I dont have uncles or aunts or extended family in the country. If i had married at 36 it would have been my mum and a sibling.
I wouldnt have been able to have George Clooney either.

Lindy2 · 21/05/2018 07:13

From the bits in the press I've heard from her wider family I can fully see why she chose not to invite them.
I'm glad her mother was there and she was amazing and dignified.
I do think Harry was spot on though when he previously said his would be "the family she never had".

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