37 weeks pregnant and DS of 7 years - had to leave partner just need a friend please

[Itiswhatitis101]

I don't know what to say or why I am here at all pestering you all. Tonight I've left my partner after a not too long relationship of just under a year after the final straw. My DS had a fall while dp was watching football in the pub with my family member he cut his chin and I was worried as I didn't see the fall but heard the bang and wanted to get it checked out in A&E. Told dp not to come until after football because we would be waiting for hours and hours he said he wasn't pissed but actually when he arrived and after 4 pints apparently he was deffo pissed. Anyway he embarrassed me so badly in the waiting room, f ing and blinding very loudly, saying it's a fucking scratch waste of my fucking time etc etc very loud, annoying ds being overly loud to him when ds got bored anyway DS got seen is ok glued and stripped back together. On the way out of hospital he starts being mouthy to a copper in front of ds I could of died of embarrassment. Anyhow got home finally tried to order pizza for dp as poor love had no tea dp starts mouthing off and spits in my face and slaps me in front of ds. I've kicked him out. I'm done. I'm 25. I had my ds very young and did it alone from 4 weeks of age, I was adamant I was having no more kids until he convinced me to have one little did I know it was a control thing to squash me under his radar, I'm not allowed friends, I'm isolated from mum and sister and dad, I am not allowed Facebook, I can't even look in direction of a man without hours of constant nasty from him saying I want said other man etc.

He's 31. I've never been so embarrassed as I was tonight with him. I've never felt such a failure to my ds who witnessed his mum being slapped and spat on and fetched me a tea towel and a cuddle. In 3 weeks time baby number 2 comes a little girl who's been created on false promises and bullshit and to top it all off he's left me financially unstable for a good month and abit.

I'm sorry I ranted and I haven't even told you half.
Sorry. Thanks for reading my crap x

So you were together a matter of weeks before he convinced you to have a child? You slept walked right into this didn’t you but what is done is done. As embarrassing as his behaviour was, thank god you were or you’d still be making excuses for him.

You’ve dodged a massive bullet and as shocking as behaviour was and as inconvenient the financial predicament is, you have the opportunity of not having your DD in a shitty relationship.

Hi all
Many thanks for all your replies of encouragement I can't even begin to tell you how much they mean and kept me going this weekend.

I've reported. I've made statements and I've got an injunction. I tried to 're connect with family but they don't want to know which is fine. I'm double locking doors and windows everytime I go out just incase and am just riding it out.

Pretty sure am in the early stages of labour now too so best keep my head on for going it all alone. Checked bank account we had jointly where he put money in for me to help run house and stuff for kids etc and he's emptied it which I expected so with -250 in my own bank am doing this.

Again,I'm sorry I haven't replied it's been crazy I've been reading your responses everyday though and they have kept me sain so thank you all that's so so nice it's st4ange how much some support from strangers actually means!!

I feel like I'm not trapped now I even drove the car yesterday and looked out the window and people watched without being accused of looking at other men it was amazing! I can wear a vest top again and not be accused of being a slag or might even manage a night out when I find some mum friends once I find a baby sitter when baby Is older. I have analysed alot during this time this weekend and I realise now why I let his behaviour go and didn't act before I think it's pure and simple I wanted a little family but more than anything I was separate for someone to love me, turns out actually I couldn't give a fig about the love bit I want me and my dc to be happy .

Thanks all.

Hope your days go ok x

You are so brilliant.

You you! Just keep on keeping on.

Good for you - your ds will learn that it's not acceptable behaviour.

Hope you are all ok.

Well done, this cannot have been easy for you, but you have taken back control of your life. Make notes of the behaviour displayed by your ex previously and a diary of interactions between you and ex going forward as this may prove very useful for agreeing arrangements for the future.
I am sorry that your family don’t want to know, maybe they think that the split is temporary and that you will get back together. Show them that that is not the case and hopefully they will come back into your life.
Let us know about new baby!

You’re Amazing and you can do this!

Well done, OP! Never look back. All the best to you and your little family x

Wow itis I'm totally in awe of your strength.
What a woman.

Your DS and DD will grow up with a brilliant, strong role model as their mother.

Please please when your daughter is born don't allow him to turn on the emotions and wheedle his way back into your life. He showed his true self the other day and perhaps in the first few months he would try to be on his best behaviour but it will eventually slip. You are better than him, give your children a better life than having this sad specimen of a man under your roof, they deserve better than him also.

Good luck, you sound great 💐

Well done for getting rid of him.
But please please don't introduce anyone new to your children now.
Focus on the kids, give them a stable upbringing and enjoy being in control of your own future.
Whatever happens, do not let him back in, remember what your poor boy had to witness.

He emptied the bank account
What a shit!

You’ve done amazingly. If and when he does come crawling back do not forget that he did this to you.

Good luck and hope the pregnancy goes well.

Be strong and do not ever let him back in your life.

Show your lovely son how to respect women.

He will probably show up when the baby is born. I don't think a man who assaults you in front of your child should have unsupervised contact.