A date !!!!

[foreverday]

So after feeling very sad and still
Not over my ex after I left 4 months ago I've somehow agreed on a date next weekend !

It's through Facebook through a friend of a friend so I don't know him, never met him only his profile.
I've spoken to my friend and she used to work with him but hasn't spoken to him in a while just that he's newly single

He messaged me tonight and ended up calling me ! I don't like all that but I did answer and glad I did as it was really comfortable and we had a good chat

Anyway, he then texted me after saying about drinks Friday night
So I said yes. He said he has arranged a taxi for us.

I'm in 2 minds. Is it too soon? What do I wear?!

Go for it and have a great time. You deserve to let your hair down. I would wear something casual.

4 months isn't too soon at all and its only drinks!

Yeah my friend said the same

Yeah casual is good. It's Friday night though and we are going to a town which is quite lovely - the town next to ours so I'm thinking skinny jeans, heels and a basic top and a jacket ?

My ex has still been bothering me though and I've only recently blocked once and for all

He turned up only a couple of weeks ago crying ( hence why I unblocked him and heard him out as he said he was going to do something silly ) I resulted to blocking again after him calling me a cunt and telling me to ' shut up women'

Anyway I'm worried because I think I should maybe wait until I'm not so sad

I'm so unsure but at the same time I know it's just a friendly drink

I left him 4 months ago but I only moved out in March and since then it's been on / off contact
Very messy
He owes me money
I told him I can't be with him and stupidly unblocked when we turned up crying

Go on the date. Block the ex.

He's blocked now
I'm just worried he will turn up or something
Feel on tender hooks

Yeah ok I'll go
Feels so strange as was only thinking earlier I didn't wanna start dating but the way this has come about feels relaxed

It will be nice to go out and take your mind off the ex for a bit, ive only been single 3 weeks and would love to go out with a nice guy so i say go for it, maybe tell him up front that you're not ready for anything serious yet :)

Oh really ? Well you never know
I just got a random Facebook message tonight and I admit it has made me smile

When we spoke on the phone I indicated i wasn't ready for a relationship
He has 2 children and I have a little one and we mentioned it because he said his ex of 18 months has finished with him because of his 2 children as in she wasn't ready to settle down

Then in our texts he asked when I could see him so I said either in 2 weeks or next weekend I can ask my mum to have my lo and he said something about can I do week days but I said not really...said she goes to her dads every other weekend so that's it for the time being then said I wasn't planning on meeting anyone
And his first message said how lovely I sound on the phone and that he felt comfortable and said maybe we could go out for a friendly drink so it was nice and relaxed

I'm not sure I liked the whole mutual friend contact thing
But my friend said If I walked into a bar and he said oh hi I think I recognise you through so and so and you liked him you would talk to him...so what's the difference

He does seem very nice so Friday will be interesting

Not sure why I feel so guilty about my ex though?

yeah we were only together a year and he wasn't ready for a serious relationship so i feel like ive just wasted my time tbh and dont want to waste any more time thinking about him

Hopefully this guy is nice and even if you decide you're not ready it's a nice confidence boost for you that he went out of his way to speak to you and ask you out :)

Did a mutual friend put you in touch or did he find you himself

He just messaged me and I had no clue who he was until I saw he was a mutual friend from someone I used to work with years ago so I messaged them and she said he's a really nice guy etc
That's true
He knows it's just a friendly drink so we might not even like each other
He's not been out his relationship long either so I don't want to be his rebound either
We will have to see how the week
Goes and if it even goes ahead

You can't live your life on the off that you'll ex will turn up if he does send him packing. You'll feel empowered by it. Go op, have fun. If it works out great. If not it's an experience.

I know, and he probably wont
He's only done it once and the last time we spoke I drummed it in to him we are done
I shall definitely update you all

He sounds really nice 😊

So update...he's messaged me this morning and we've had quite a few messages
He asked what I do for work, how old my little one is and told me his daughters ages and what he does for work
He said do I want to do dinner and drinks on Friday, said can we just do drinks
As I'll be taking my lo to my mums after work and will get ready here and stay at my mums too
He said he's off to golf and seeing a friend and would message me later 😊

What a let down

He messaged me arranging Friday
As we live two towns away and where are going is another town on he said it's cheaper to get a hotel then to get a taxi there and back so he hope it's not too forward but is that ok?! He said he will be a gent
I replied saying in that case let's just meet local in the town between us so half way and go to a nice pub and he's fine with that

After I spoke to my mum and bf and both said that was creepy

I can't lie it has put me off him
Why couldn't he just have left it as a taxi and if that's too expensive then closer to home?!

What right mind girl would stay in a hotel to a next to almost blind date ?! Or is it just me ?

If we message later shall I mention it? Cancel the date ? Go for the drink and just see ?

Also another downpoint is since I've been messaging this guy I keep feeling sorry for my ex
Last time I saw him he was crying saying sorry
I don't want him back as I know he won't change but last 2 days I'm questioning if I'm doing the right thing

Help freaking out

That is too forward and it is not OK.

No way would I be comfortable with that.

Yep same obviously I've said no !
But do I go on the date still ?

@foreverday, I would not go on the date.
MNs often quite , when people show you who they are , believe them.

That's what I'm thinking
He said he's just split from his ex too so I think he's on the rebound

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I have a horrible feeling about this date
Can't explain it
Is that normal ?
I've been with my ex for 3.5 years split a couple of months ago but he's still in the pic as he owes me money but he's blocked but he's made no secret he wants me back ( we split because of his moods and tempers )
The date is tomorrow and I just don't know because the guy has been full on
Asking me I'm still intimate with my ex?!
Saying about the hotel freaked me out
Just being forward but it's creeped me out a bit
I'm thinking of cancelling