A date !!!!

[foreverday]

So after feeling very sad and still
Not over my ex after I left 4 months ago I've somehow agreed on a date next weekend !

It's through Facebook through a friend of a friend so I don't know him, never met him only his profile.
I've spoken to my friend and she used to work with him but hasn't spoken to him in a while just that he's newly single

He messaged me tonight and ended up calling me ! I don't like all that but I did answer and glad I did as it was really comfortable and we had a good chat

Anyway, he then texted me after saying about drinks Friday night
So I said yes. He said he has arranged a taxi for us.

I'm in 2 minds. Is it too soon? What do I wear?!

I think if you’re not comfortable you should cancel.

Those are unnecessarily intrusive and personal questions he has asked.
He sounds odious.

You know you need to cancel - just do it and then breathe a sigh of relief. Stop procrastinating!

@foereverday, do not go.

Cancel the date

He said he has a high sex drive, saying things like hopefully we can be each other's happiness and messaging lots
When I didn't reply for a bit he is saying ' are you ok'
I just needed some views because it's all new to me that's all
Half my friends are saying go so wanted to ask on here
I told him I wasn't over my ex etc and said it was raw I didn't want him back but just wanted to let him know that it's a big thing for me and my first date but then he was asking about when I was initiate for him and if we liked each other than he couldn't deal with ex's ?!
Obviously these are all over the course of a week so just adding it all up making me uneasy
We've spoken a lot and he does come across nice in most messages but we've spoken too much if you know what I mean
When I didn't reply on what's app
He then text saying am I ok things like that

Trust your gut. He sounds a bit dodgy with all this full on messaging, probing questions and talk of hotel rooms

Woah. Run a mile!

I am/was a "sleep together on the first date" sort of girl, but the hotel thing is creepy and too forward. Everything else you have said supports that.

Absolutely cancel!

Sounds like you want to go.

Well you are very wrong

I've cancelled

Good on you

Well done - it’s really creepy just messaging random friends of friends for a start - normal guys would ask your mutual friend to introduce you. Then all the sexual stuff and the hotel - ew not nice at all. Glad you’ve blocked him.

That is good news.

Whenever I have felt uncomfortable but gave someone the benefit of the doubt it has backfired.

I think you have done the right thing.

Thank goodness you cancelled...there is absolutely nothing wrong with dating even if you aren't over your ex, it can be great fun to take your mind off it and meet new people..but he is definitely not the guy!! He sounds creepy and intrusive. Good luck with dating though!! Don't let this put you off..

Cancelling was the right thing to do.
It didn't feel right.
Never ignore your gut instinct.

It's easy to explain it away to him as 'Ex is still in the picture and you need more time to sort everything out'