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Please talk sense into me

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banjenjan · 14/05/2018 21:04

Hi everyone. I am 35 year old who thankfully escaped from an abusive marriage with my life. After two year single I decided to try online dating and met what I thought was a lovely man who I fell head over heals for. We instantly connected and he made me laugh for the first time in so long. I did spot a few red flags but ignored them. Then during the weekend he all of a sudden got very angry about me not being comfortable being completely naked in front of him. This was at 6am in the morning and although I didn't respond he left the house in temper. We had planned to spend the day together but when he didn't return I decided to leave on my own. I was upset driving home and sent him a message saying so and that I didn't see how things could work between us. He later text back saying some very hurtful things including that I had a hideous tummy. I was hurt and knew I couldn't afford to enter another abusive relationship for me and my children's sake. That night the phone calls started and after I blocked him he landed at my house the following day with a letter apologizing and telling me how much he loved me. Thankfully I was not home as I reckon I might of caved had I been. Now I'm hurting real bad and want to give him another chance but I know it's a mistake. Please tell me I'm doing the right thing

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Shampaincharly · 15/05/2018 17:39

Definitely no contact now. You do not want to return to what you have escaped from. Congratulations by the way for that!

Grumpyoldblonde · 15/05/2018 17:40

You don't need this wanker in your life. Stand firm and be proud of yourself for not tolerating such twattery

Slowtrain2dawn · 15/05/2018 17:50

You’ve dodged a massive bullet, what a horrible man, the showering of compliments etc are classic signs of an abuser. Definitely reccomend Pat Cravens’ Freedom Programme as pp’s said. (Its sometimes run by Womens’ Aid but other organisations too).

Missingstreetlife · 15/05/2018 18:14

So sorry your ex did not think of your children. That is such a selfish angry thing to do. Do you know winstons wish, they work with bereaved families in all circumstances. Stay strong

jillynilly · 16/05/2018 12:10

Op you have just dodged a massive bullet there

lookinlove · 16/05/2018 20:36

What an absolute arse

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